....and all you can say is "Oh dear" or "I am so sorry"?
2007-11-28 03:30:35 · 30 answers · asked by hello world 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
But that truly is enough! Just to know someone cares and won't kick you when you are down is all that person needs.
To feel that love and support makes the difference in getting through the day.
(((helloworld)))
2007-11-28 06:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yyou are going through a really difficult time and it is normal to feel inadequate. Being a mother is incredibly difficult and challenging under all the best circumstances and when you are seriously overtired and very stressed, it only makes it harder and that much worse. You need to know that what's happening right now is happening just as it is supposed to be. Your son will do fine on formula -- generations of us were raised on it, and we all did fine. My adopted son was not breastfed for obvious reasons -- but he was far healthier (obviously just ahd better immunities!) than my biological daughter whom I exclusively breastfed for 9 months. Things happen for a reason and perhaps you now know that there are reasons to not judge someone just because they are not breastfeeding. I found that at just the age your son is now, the whole mothering thing got harder because it wasn't a new and exciting event any more -- and the extra attention I got fromit was fading fast and the whole idea that this motherhood thing was permanent was setting in -- and it felt very overwhelming. I loved being a mom and I loved my children but, it was really hard and there was no break. At all. Ever. It is the fullest full time job there is. And the committment doesn't get any bigger. Give yourself a giant hug. Know that these tiny baby days really do go by very fast in hindsight and you will be amazed to look back in just a few short years and see how beautiful and wonderful a child you are raising and are blessed to have. Be sure to always look in on him when he is peacefully asleep. Do this for years even when he gets big and you will always feel blessed.
2016-04-06 02:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never feel inadequate. There is always something I can do, even if it is just think of them. People often shortchange themselves, because they feel that they have to physically do something for someone. That isn't the case. Your thoughts and prayers, are often the best gift you can give. We all face trying times, but what got me through was knowing that I had friends that cared enough to lift us up in prayer and pass our names around so that others could do the same. Prayer is powerful and it does work. So when you don't think you are doing anything , Just say a prayer. Whether you are religious or not, you have to have some type of faith. Faith is what gets us through. We live each day through faith there will be a tomorrow. So never inadequate but always ready to say a prayer and believe.
2007-11-28 05:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcarolinagirl66 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think it's a normal reaction.
unfortunately, some people feel they can't cope with a friend or family member going through a hard time and totally back away. This is a normal reaction, but it hurts the person who has the problem so much.
I think we should all try a little harder to empathise and imagine what we would feel like in that situation.
But you're right, in lots of situations, there's nothing you can say but 'i am sorry'. Plenty of times if you say more you can end up putting your foot in it.
Good Luck!
2007-11-28 03:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by music_lovin_miss 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's so hard to know what to say or do when someone is going through a bad time. We've been there...
and it still isn't easy knowing what to say. It always hurts me when someone is hurting and I feel tongue tied, very inadequate. I usually wind up just hugging them and crying with them.
2007-11-28 10:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. I have a son with Autism and often feel inadequate as a parent with him.
2007-11-28 03:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Pixie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a horrible feeling....I usually start baking for that person. It is not something that makes me feel inadequate, but determined to help....
Peace.
2007-11-28 16:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. I don't know what to say and saying sorry just seems so empty. I just let them know that I'm there for them if they need someone to just listen and support them.
2007-11-28 03:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Rebe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I totally understand.
I have been there for friends when tragedy has occurred.
And felt inadequate.
But I also understand how my part was very important, by just being "present".
Sometimes we forget how important it is just to be "present" for people.
If you think about your childhood.......the ones that stay in your memory..
It was those times when another person was "present".
Those are treasured moments.
Don't discount how important your presence is to someone.
2007-11-28 03:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by sasha1641 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that's all they need you to say honey. Just letting them talk about it and not keep it bottled up is helping I'm sure. But if it's someone close to you and they need something - get it for them if you can. ♥
2007-11-28 03:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by tbm 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋