your husband dont really talk to you about your marriage,he just work and come home and pay his lil bill or 2 and dont give me any money dont hug or kiss me but when i kiss him he wipes it off telling me not to do that and inside of myself i start to feel really bad i cant explain how it feel but it hurts a lot he dont make love to me the marriage is very cold
2007-11-28 03:04:59 · 26 answers · asked by BROKEN AND BEAUTFUL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also he has started back smoking and drinking he just here in the home stays in the room to him self 2 months ago i found his pic on the computer he was looking for a serious relationship and he stated he was legel sep.when i feel that feeling in me it make me want to get to screaming or get wild
2007-11-28 03:26:29 · update #1
Abuse, yeah. I think he didn't marry someone he loved, but he married a maid, cook, cleaner, etc. I've been married 28 years to my "bride." I cook (doesn't taste that good, granted), I clean, and take care of the bills. I don't have a comfy hi tech, office job, but a manual labor, out in the cold crap job. When I come home feeling like I been run down by a truck, I look into her eyes, and ask not only how her day was, but listen to ever word with compassion, and understanding. Why? Yes, I love her, and at the end of the day I still feel I couldn't find anyone else as wonderful in the world to ever replace her. Even when she says, "would you ever leave me for anyone else, or someone half my age?" When I was younger she would put her hand out to mine to hold, now I grasp her hand first and hold on, even when walking from the car to the store. Your hubby, you know is just wasting your time. Time to move on.
2007-11-28 03:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Clipper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. Some men are not good a showing affection. But wiping your kiss off is wayyyy out of line. It's time for some change. Get counseling or get a divorce. Sorry, girl, my bet is on the divorce.
2007-11-28 03:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a marriage does it?
Why not go out and get your own job so you have your own money? Then you can also be making friends with people who don't mind your friendship in return?
I'd be getting that job and saving to pack and leave. We all need affection!
2007-11-28 03:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. If you are not getting treated the way you want to, and he doesnt want to talk anything through, then he is being disrespectful, rude, and uncaring. And who wants that. Just tell him you are moving on. if this continues it may hurt your self esteem, which will make it harder to leave the relationship later.
Best of luck to you!
2007-11-28 03:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is neglecting you..i really think you should try to discuss with him what feelings that he has..try to find out what is bothering him so you can try to understnad what is making him act this way....choose a day he is not too tired from work sit him down and speak with him....
tell him exactly how you feel without yelling or shouting or putting blame on him...
remember communication is key in a relationship....if the problems are too much for ya'll to hangle try couples therapy...
2007-11-28 03:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by ebony_316 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neglect = Abuse
I am also one of those people who believes a marriage with out intimacy....is just being roommates. I think, if there are not children involved, you can seriously consider leaving him.
2007-11-28 03:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by illinoismommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called emotional abuse, neglect is a form of emotional abuse.
I think if you want to try and save your marriage, you and your husband I believe BOTH need to agree to go to marriage counceling and both work at it.
A marriage won't work if only 1 of you is working at it.
2007-11-28 03:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't have children. I would never stay. Never, Never. Everyone deserves to love and to be loved. Go away. I would go even if I had children. Its better for them to grow up with a happy single mom than with a married miserable parents!!! Good Luck!
2007-11-28 03:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by DeeZee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's nothing minor, in my opinion. That's complete neglect and disrespect. I'm sure people will answer back saying to seek counseling or some baloney, but if my husband EVER treated me this way, I'd show his a.ss the door.
2007-11-28 03:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Diane 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a form of Psychological/Emotional abuse which is the hardest to identify. Which by definition is withholding love, sympathy or understanding, inadequate physical or emotional care, isolation, intimidation, extreme jealousy, destroying property, threatening to commit suicide.
He is witholding love from you and is giving you inadequate physical and emotional care. He is your husband and is making you feel unworthy of love. The two of you need to seek couselling. If he refuses then you need to go on your own.
Good luck
2007-11-28 03:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by Violet 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋