i was working on a project along with my 11 friends but now the project is over and i will have to return to my original life. i don feel happy. i feel empty. i cant contact those new frnds which i made durin this project as frequently as i used to. we worked together and had a lot of fun. but now, everythings over!! i do not want to return to my student life as its too monotonous. i cannot also do those things which used to do earlier. I FEEL LONELY AND EMPTY!!!
pls help me and tell me some ways to recover this situation.
2007-11-28 03:04:05 · 31 answers · asked by sam 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
In life, the good times never last as long as we might hope. You have to realize there are better times ahead if you allow yourself the possibility of them. Get back into school with a better attitude; you're projecting negativism right now and actually repelling people. We are magnets as well as animals, you know.
GLITF (good luck in the future)
2007-11-28 03:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Goethe's Ghostwriter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, just know that you are not alone in feeling alone and empty. I have found that being more smiley and happy in school gets you more attention and people seem to like you more. But if you want those specific people, then why not call them up and ask them if they would like to hang out sometime and if they say no, well hey that's their loss. You can always find other people that will be loyal to you and trust worthy. If this doesn't work, well hey its not that bad being alone it actually is sometimes better because your not distracted with other people and their problems. But you don't want to shut the world out completely....Just wait and in time you will find an amazing friend, because all you really need is one person to change your life completely. Just keep smiling and people will see a side of you they'll want to get to know and soon you'll have tons of friends, I'm sure of it. Good Luck.
2007-11-28 11:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sexi Khyle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly , get rid of self pity.
this is a hypothetical situation , which your mind has created , for seeking attention.
people should also enjoy our company , and look forward for being with us , it can not be a one way traffic.
world is small and large , at the same time. we keep on meeting new people, so keep your eyes open , and your attitude fresh .
More importantly, explore your own self first , and start loving it. if you hate yourself, so will the people.
it's of no use wanting to be in the crowd always. it's good to be alone , indulge with your own self , and enjoy your space , and freedom.
what do you mean student life is monotonous ?
leave this casual attitude to life. you can not make friends , when people know , that you are a drifting type , with no specific goals .
that feeling of emptiness has stemmed from laziness, to put it bluntly, but i am doing it for your good .
decide your path first, what you want to be, and friends will be there all along.
2007-11-28 11:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by palador 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In life we get put into great situations and sometimes really bad situations. Appreciate the fact that you have had a good experience, value it and cherish it. You will find that state of happiness again but in a differant form, dont seclude yourself from things. Keep in touch with your friends, if you are all meant to be strong friends, you will keep in touch. You cant live in a world of exactly what you want, you can try if its possible, but almost forcing it and being so emotionally negative toward it will only make you into a depressive person.
Remember apreciate and smile about the good times.
be strong in the bad.
life is up and down, the only way is up from here!
2007-11-28 11:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by dowsann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow u have a lot of answers!
Everyone has good advise - ppl just love giving advise it seems.
Anyway here's mine:
Distractions go a long way! TV Shows, Movies, Food, Books, Music, until you find a new project. I fell into what i think is the most optimistic TV show out there - an anime called Naruto - real cheer upper. Enjoy life! Its the small things that matter, I say!
Happy HOlidays!
2007-11-28 12:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Khush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your daily life your project! School is what YOU make it.
Ask teachers for extra work or help with what you are doing right now; get a tutor to assist you if you feel left behind. Volunteer to help others... the more you give...the more you get. Working on the project engaged you.... you know it made things better! You can find that same feeling every day by reaching out to help someone! Good luck! Hugs!
2007-11-28 11:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been to a couple of situations like that. But trust me, if you say you had a lot of fun with them, then they probably felt the same way with you and each other. Sometimes someone in the group has to take the initiative to bring the group back, or else everyone just ends up doing his own thing, and before you know it - strangers again. Take that initiative, call them up. Organize a party or a get together. Believe me, they are most likely waiting for someone of the group to do just that.
2007-11-28 11:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by kid_gelo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come up with a new project to meet others, volunteer at a soup kitchen or shelter or even a humane society? There are so many things to do and I bet your school has great clubs/groups that you can join that have the same interests as you. Take care of yourself and don't forget schools usually offer free help by a therapist and you may want to look into it if you continue with these feelings. Good luck and God Bless!
2007-11-28 11:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sierra 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have friends anywhere else in your "original" life, with whom you can start another project? Or be with? Maybe you should work on that? And also, why can't you still interact with the recent 11 friends you made? Did they all die? Do you not have communication abilities? I mean, you're talking to "us" on the Internet, so why can't you talk to them? Or call them, and schedule a time to get together again?
I don't think it's as bad or dramatic as you're making it.....friends that are your true friends will be with you whether or not you're working on a project together. And if you are that insecure that you need constant attention or stimulation from other persons, and you are so uncomfortable with yourself and being alone, then you should probably figure out why you are so uncomfortable & lonely...could be an underlying issue with yourself that you need to deal with??
2007-11-28 11:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the first thing to do is get out and meet people...
what are your interests? Join like minded individuals in group clubs I know its hard to meet and make friends but to much introspection and self pity just brings on depression!
Volunteer work is a great way to get into groups and meet a diverse group of individuals.
If depression sets in see a doctor or join a self help group there are lots around and you would be surprised how a little support can change your life
Tee
Have a good life and don't let this get you down we all go through periods in our life when things seem like it just won't get better but it does if you get proactive
2007-11-28 11:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by Magus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋