how do u deal with a loved one dying?

Question

i am 16 years old and someone very close to me has died i keep on breaking down and i don't know how to deal with it.
help please

Answer 1

i think death is a beginning and not an ending. life is hard enough. when a family member or friend dies i am sad. but i know they are in a better place. i cope well. guess because life has dealt me horrible cards. so in saying that. i think death is relaxation and ease. no struggles, no stress, no strain. so i'm never really too too sad. i cry a lil. i get a lil frustrated. scream a lil. then i say i can't change it. GOD needed another angel.

Answer 2

It is extremely hard as everyone should know.I have been to the funerals of my uncle,grandfather, and recent neighborhood barber.all of these have hit me hard but I have still yet to cry during the ceremony.I dont like to think that this is disrespectful.Everyone says that they would hate to be cried over when they are gone.plus the fact that no one in the world can control death.It is a gruesome thought but I realized this before all of the deaths I have mentioned.One still sticks out for an odd reason that I still cannot explain.In the summer of 2005, there was a soon to be high school senior.also to be named the captain of the cross country team.got into a car accident and died on impact.now mind you I did not know who this boy was let alone even talk to him. but from then till the next fall, I felt an increasing feeling like I was one of his best friends.No one could tell me really why I could have felt this way for so long. But I think its because everyone need to experience death,even if it is just a stranger,it can impact from a different point of view.and everyone knows that he is gone but he is still felt throughout the town, especially with the support of the local runners and the schools cross country and track teams.

My advice is just to keep a box with a few important things that remind you of this person.put it away for a while, and maybe a few months later open it up.It will better help you deal witht he grief

Answer 3

A tuff time eh...... You have our blessings and if nothing more a CYBER cuddle......
You will feel sad and lonely for a long time as 'time' is the only healer of bereavement.... It may help you to find old photo's of you and your friend and remember the good times you shared together. This can be coupled with visiting the grave and seeking solace there by opening your heart and just saying how you feel..Chances are at first you will be angry because they have left you but over time you will realise they never leave, it's just you cant see them anymore. Where ever that happy place is, is where you should go and 'chat' and although you may feel foolish at first, many people will understand this way of coming to terms with the loss you and yours have withstood.
As time goes on the pain will ease and although you will never forget them your feelings will change from sadness to fond and happy memories of a great friend.....

Answer 4

it's very important to figure out exactly why you are crying, i know this may seem like a stupid statement but please think about it. Is it because there is something that you wanted to say to them? is it because there is something you said and you regret? is it just because you totally miss them? if it is the latter then why not sit down and find ways of celebrating their life, make a list of everything about them that was good and wonderful, write down exactly what they looked like, what mannerisms they had that you liked/disliked really delve into your memory of them, make sure that everything that you liked or disliked, loved or hated about them is engraved on your mind, if you do this continually then you will soon realise that you are holding their memory close, that you are still loving them even if their body is no longer with you. It really can work, it really does work if you try real hard. I have lost 6 people who were very close to me over the past 10 years, it doesn't get easier but it does become a little more acceptable if you work at it. It is too easy to almost give up on yourself and just mourn, try to keep all of this in mind and give it a try. take care and good luck.

Answer 5

It depends on how much memory u've got about him/her and how much time you spent together try not to think about this too much to prevent depression. always try to be around happy people. Sharing your problem with someone you know as also been through this same problem might also be a great help.

Don't listen to sad musics that brings memory of the past. When you remember about him/her and you wanna cry, try to remember the sweetest moment you both had together and if you still can't help it, then go somewhere where there are no one to comfort you and cry as loud as possible, scream out loud and let your emotions all out. you will notice that after all these, you'll fell better. this should only happen once in a blue moon. time will also be there to help you forget about this gradually. GOOD LUCK:(

Answer 6

MY mum died unexpectedly and suddenly in march of this year ,it was a mind numbing shock to my whole system
and i didnt know how to feel or think or do anything at all
it was like a bad daze and i could feel despair starting to take over me , i looked at my two dogs who my mum cherished so much and i thought if i go downhill these two will suffer so i made a solemn promise to my mother and my dogs and myself that i wouldnt let it get that bad
and touch wood the dogs take up a lot of my time and keep me busy and i seem to have got through the worst of my grief and i am now slowly getting back to "normal"again
MY answer is TIME heals and keeping yourself active and busy but without letting yourself go into a state denial helps too

Answer 7

Well when I was 16 I lost my Grandfather and I felt like a part of me died with him. I cried for weeks. You must go through the steps of grief. Accept the fact that they are gone and know that they are in a better place. Keep your loved one alive with the memories you have of them. And I always think that my grandfather is watching out for me now so maybe this will help

Answer 8

There is never an easy answer to this sort of question, I personally found only time does the grief become less painfull.
The way i personally dealt with it was to remember all the good memory's i shared with the one i lost.
Its a great comfort all so to have friends and family to be there when you most need them, they can be a great source of comfort and support.

Answer 9

Cry when you need to! We all deal with grief in our own way. Once you get through the toughest part of the grief, you'll see it's a bit easier to deal with.
Try and think of the good times. Celebrate your friends life and memories. Also keep in mind, their still with you.....just look over your shoulder! :-)

Answer 10

My sincere condolences. With time it should become easier to accept their death, but it will never leave you entirely. Each individual's response is different and talking through it with supportive family and friends will help. Try perhaps to focus more on the positive aspects of their life and less on their passing or suffering.