My husband is a fourth, My son will be a fifth? When does it end!!!?!?

Question

Hi,

I'm pregnant and if it is a boy my husband insists we name him his name but the fifth. He is the fourth, his father the third, etc.

I told him I thought that going up to the fifth was a little too much, when does it end? I have only heard of it going up to the 3rd mostly...

I also feel kind of bad that I will have no say in what his name would be.

What do you guys think? Also, does anyone know what this is called so I can search for some articles, I thought it was Sir names but nothing came up...

Thanks!

Answer 1

Well my husband is named after his father. We have had problems with our credit, mail, and even getting my father in laws 401K check. We have 3 children and none are named after my husband. I would suggest taking these issues into consideration and letting your husband know about it. We even had one incident when my father in law lived close to us and he banked at the same bank we did, one of our checks that we deposited was put into HIS account. You can always name the first or middle name the same and have either the first or middle name different. Hope that helps. If not then don't make it a huge issue. Enjoy your pregancy. You might have a girl and not have to worry about it anyway.

Answer 2

A surname is the family name, the last name.

Creating yet another Jr. with Dad's name seems a bit tiresome after so many. The boy will run into all sorts of identity problems with credit, taxes, etc.

Incidentally, he will not be a true John Doe V, for instance, unless the names are exactly the same, first-middle-last all identical.

How about using Dad's name as a middle name and giving your son his own name?

Answer 3

My husband was a third, and luckly refused to continue the tradition. We have had so many problems with people mixing him and his father up. Why don't you try and use the family first name as a middle name? That might make people happy. Or you can keep the middle name. Either way, your child deserves their own first name! All else fails, you can sign the birth certificate when your husband isn't around and name him anything you like!

Answer 4

well i work with a guy who is the 4th i also work with his dad the 3rd the 4th and his wife have a little boy the 5th. there was no doubt in my friends mind what they were gonna name the baby if it was a boy. its his heritage and his wife was ohcay with that. try a compromise. if he gets to name the boy you get to name the girl. or if he gives you a little leeway. say he gets the first name of the boy and you get the middle name then if its a girl you get the first name of her and he get the middle name. i think you can still make him the 5th. i have another friend where the males in there family all have the same first name but different middle names. not sure if they do the number thing...

my brother and sister in law did the first middle name compromise when she was PG 4 years ago.. he wanted Ashley and Brenton She wanted Tiffany and Michael. so they compromised for a girl it would be Tiffany Ashley for a boy Brenton Michael. it was a girl :~)

Good luck adn congrats on your abby

Answer 5

the baby is in YOUR uterus, and YOU are carrying him! Put your foot down and name your son. You are the one who has to give birth! I truly despise this disgusting tradition. It doesnt matter what your husband thinks. I know that sounds awful, but Im serious. He got the fun in conceiving him, now you should have the fun of naming him. It's only fair. My ONLY compromise would be that Id name the baby after him, If it could have my maiden name as its last name.

Answer 6

I think that you need to compromise on names and that if you don't want your son to have his father's name then he shouldn't. My hubby us Jr., but his father is crazy.
My hubby's dad is Danial Eugene B.
My hubby is Danial Eugene B. Jr.
Then my FIL gets divorced/remarried and has, in this order, Danika, Danial Christopher, and Dana.

I am like OMG, enough with the Dan thing already.
It stops here. If I have a son he will be his own person.

Talk to your hubby and try to find a middle ground.

Answer 7

It ends with you. Your baby deserves his own name. Do not compromise on this! If you must "honor" your husband somehow, give the baby his first name as the baby's middle name. Choose another first name. The dynasty needs a new title.

Answer 8

I think it is nice to keep the name going. My husband has six daughters and will never have a son to keep his name going. He is a second and his father died when he was 4. So I say if it is possile to keep the name going then do it and you can name the next child all by yourself.

Answer 9

If it's a family tradition, I would say leave it alone, unless it REALLY bothers you. Perhaps you could pick the middle name? Or name the next child?

How strongly do you feel about this? Compromise may be called for (like using dad's name as a middle name), but if he absolutely will not budge, I would say defer to your hubby and let it be. You can call your son by a nickname, or use his middle name.

My husband insisted that we use his grandfather's name as our son's middle name (Clyde). At first, I hated it, but after 5 years, I now think it is rather charming. For a first name, Michael was the only name we both liked. I relaly wanted William (after my father, grandfather, brother and step-father), but my hubby thought we had enough Bills and Wills in the family. Since that time, my step-dad (who raised me) has passed away. If I were to have another son, his name would be William (for my step-dad, who had no other children) Richard (for my step-dad's brother, who was killed in Vietnam). I would not budge on that. Although my hubby does not love the name, I know he would respect my reasons. I want to honor my step-dad's memory, as well as his love for his brother. So, try to look at it from your hubby's perspective. This sounds very important to him, as naming our next child would be for me.

Answer 10

Sir name is a last name. I think its suffix, jr sr III IV and so on.

I think it can be nice, but on the otherhand, i'd want my son to be his own person. My husband is named after his father and he HATES it.

Personally I dont like it for my kids either. Its not right that you have no say in it. He's your child too.