Will this work?

Question

Last night I finally told my ex girlfriend I don't think we should talk for awhile. She ended the relationship about a month and a half ago, and since then SHE'S called me everyday and sends me text messages everyday. However, she continues to tell me we wont get back together and to approach our " situation" as it wont happen again but if it does be surprised and happy. She seemed upset last night that I was finally cutting the ties, as I'm finally starting to take the control away from her I believe. However, the only reason why I'm doing this is because I want her to miss me and for us to get back together. All my close friends and family believes we will and that its just a matter of time, I just really hope they're right. She's also hands on with me whenever we go out, and extremely flirty, and this will be stopping that as well. What do you think will this work and bring her back or no?

Answer 1

All I can say is you broke up for a reason. I don't know the reason, but just because you want her back, doesn't mean you should get back together. You may find over a little time, that she really isn't what you are looking for in the long term and be glad she is gone.....You family may have the best of intentions by telling you they think you will get back together, but they need to stop that talk too. It isn't helpful to you.

Answer 2

If anything will work, I think it will be this. Hanging around her without the attachment is like letting her have her cake and eat it too. This way you're showing her that you're not a lapdog, all the while giving her a chance to miss you (since she can't miss you if you're always there)... that would be much more attractive than just being her friend... and if she doesn't come back, then it obviously wasn't mean to be.

Answer 3

Well for the last month and a half you have been doing it her way and now it is your turn to be in control. I think you are on to something by distancing yourself from her to have her think if she want to be with you or not. Giving her time to think will be that best. It is going to be hard for you but stay strong and be a man and hold your ground. Good luck

Answer 4

It may bring her back, but the big question is this: Do you really want her back? Sounds to me like she's been playing with you and is on a serious control trip. If she's doing the mind-game thing or is trying to manipulate you, she's not worth having around. Don't stay in a relationship where your partner doesn't truly respect your feelings.

Answer 5

If you want her back the only way to get her back is to completely ignore her until she is begging to take her back. Nothing else will work. Don't pick up the phone or email her for at least a few weeks unless of course she begs on the voicemails. Women don't understand anything other then being treated like garbage. If you are nice to them they will step all over you. Try it and the begging will commence.

Answer 6

FIRST OFF GAIN A SENSE OF MATURITY! YOU ARE BOTH I AM SURE ARE ADULTS! YOU NEED TO SIT AND FIGURE OUT WITHIN YOURSELF ARE YOU MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION FOR YOU AND YOUR HEART! IF YOU SIT AND VENT ON STRAIGHT UP GROWN FOLK CONVERSATION, THAT CAN OFTEN HELP THE SITUATION BUT SWEETHEART YOU CAN'T MAKE THAT GROWN FOLK CONVERSATION TOTALLY ABOUT YOU AND HER WRONGS, BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT THE FULL PICTURES WHERE ARE YOUR WRONGS IN THIS AS WELL! I THINK BEING TOTALLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF CAN HEAL SOME WOMBS BUT SUGAR COATING AND PLAYING THE BLAME GAME ISN'T GOING TO WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OFTEN TIMES WE FIND FAULT IN THE OTHER PERSON BUT DO WE REALLY FIND TOTAL FAULT IN OURSELVES? I KNOW I'VE BEEN IN THE SAME SITUATION AND GUESS WHAT, THERE'S BLAME FOR THE BOTH AND THE ADULT CONVERSATION NEVER TAKES PLACE BECAUSE WHEN YOU HAVE TO STRONG LEVEL HEADED PEOPLE THAT CAN'T COME TO ONE ACCORD IT NEVER WORKS THE WAY YOU WANT IT! THE CATCH IS MAYBE YOUR EX IS AN EMOTIONAL BASKET CASE AND SHE'S TRYING HARD WITHOUT WORDS TO GROUND HERSELF AND WHAT ACTUALLY TO DO WITH HER EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS ALL TOGETHER..... I'M NOT ASKING YOU TO CARE, BUT CAN YOU HONESTLY LOOK AT THE FULL PICTURE HERE, AREN'T YOU PLAYING GAMES RIGHT NOW TRYING TO SEE IF SHE WILL MISS YOU AFTER YOU LEAVE THE SITUATION IN LIMBO AND THEN WORK ITSELF OUT! NO SWEETHEART THAT ISN'T GOOD! SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH HER, AND BE UPFRONT WITH HER ABOUT THE FULL PICTURE HERE!

GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK BUT TO ME FROM WHAT YOU WROTE STOP POINTING FINGERS AND PLAYING GAMES AND ACT LIKE AN ADULT AND HANDLE THE SITUATION......

Answer 7

Apparently she is riding the fence with you...wanting to keep you near just in case something doesn't work out with someone else...or she is just a messed up woman that has no clue what she wants...You are doing the right thing by cutting the ties....she is sending you mixed signals and that is so unfair....you can't make her miss you and come back to you if she doesn't want to....but why would you want to be with someone who doesn't know what she wants?

Answer 8

Its your best hope at this time. Even if you dont get back together, Its a great move on your part =)
Good job taking matters into YOUR own hands =)

Answer 9

Five important tips for men.
1. It's important that a woman is a good housekeeper, and a great cook.
2. It's important that a woman laughs at your jokes.
3. It's important to find a woman you can count on, and will lend you money.
4. It's important that a woman is good in bed, and never gets a headache.
5. It's extremely important that these four women don't know each other.

Answer 10

You shouldn't be doing this as a way to get her back. She appears to want it both ways...to be able to flirt with you, staying "hands on", but yet not have a relationship with you. That's not fair to you...either keep the relationship or end it.

That's what you're doing, and that's the smart thing. If she doesn't want a relationship, you both need to move on with your lives.