If so, How do you handle it?
I love my husband so much and he's a great guy. He is a hard worker, and kind to me and others.
He is just so negative about everything.
Movies, jobs, cars, you name it, he has something bad to say.
I am wore out about it.
2007-11-28 02:14:14 · 9 answers · asked by littlefoot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oops, I didn't mean to post this twice, my 'pewter is acting up on me.
appreciate all your answers though.
2007-11-28 02:24:14 · update #1
Keep on your good work in staying positive, listing to him even though it's hard. He needs to know someone believes in him, and that someone should be his wife, no matter what.
Good luck, and I am sure you will be blessed.
2007-11-28 03:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by tuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I tend to conplain about a lot of things. I think its because I'm ungrateful and/or I'm just not happy. I came across a christian site called "a complain free world." The concept is really good & its a lot of hard work to change the attitute, but I'm working on it. Also talking about feelins is always good. Your husband may need a friend who will listen & give an objective opinion about things. No offense but the wife is not always the best person to talk to about these things, much like a woman can confide in a girlfriend.
hope this helps,
2007-11-28 10:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by *D* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think of your husband as negative, try to think of him as just being more realistic than you. When you tell him something, and he shoots you down, listen, and say "I see your point. And you are right in that aspect. However, I believe things might not be that bad" And present your reasoning. If you back up your perspective with good observation, he'll learn it see it your way too. Or maybe he does not, the two of you can learn to agree to disagree. Being married is not about seeing eye to eye on everything.
2007-11-28 10:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is very negative. I actully had him tested for ADD and he was a classic case and was given some medication. He was often frustrated because he is very smart but failed to occomplish alot because of the ADD. Things have improved but I think he will always be negative.
2007-11-28 10:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by smslmanzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is very negative. She has a history of depression and it's tearing us apart at times. Tell your husband to get on meds. It should help a bit.
2007-11-28 10:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dr S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep and I remind him how pessimistic he really is. But he doesn't care. It only gets worse as you go on, too.
2007-11-28 10:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep...but i just remind him that things could be worse in our life...which of course gets me the "look" but i'm positive and outgoing for both of us..and i wouldn't change him for anything...
2007-11-28 10:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Infantry Wife ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate it to girlie...it gets me down jus hearin him say stupid stuff all time .... it gets so boring and it can ruin relationship between you 2....... just tell him to stop or u may have to split up if it gets to unbearable ..... sometimes i wanta throw my hands up an jus give up .....
2007-11-28 12:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by BOOBOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..but Im that way...Im just a wife... :(
2007-11-28 10:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by MZ02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋