I was dating this guy (he's bi) fairly strong for about a year, then he decided that he couldn't handle it - stating he wasn't ready for a relationship and our feelings for each other were too strong. He stated that he had some priorities to deal with financial and family (two kids w/ ex wife), and he abruptly cut me off - although we still spoke occasionally. I never told him how much I really loved him, and maybe that was a mistake - I didn't want to pressure him. Later I saw he was online a lot on a gay dating site, and I know he was "getting his groove on." A couple months ago he reemerged - started calling and wanting to go out again, but not as often as before. I learned that he was dating an old girlfriend all summer and still is (he cut her off when we dated), but a couple weeks ago he was with me intimately, and he deleted his account on the gay site a couple weeks ago. I am confused about his intentions - What does he really want from me? Should I tell him how I love him?
2007-11-28 01:51:48 · 8 answers · asked by Mal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds a little bit like he is afraid of commitment. This sounds like it has nothing to do with his bisexuality, considering he was still dating this other girl. So long as he wasn't accessing the gay dating site when with you then you have a good idea that he doesn't have any issues with choosing a gender. It sounds like it was just of him keeping his options open after dating you, ultimately bisexuals are attracted to both men and women afterall. For many there is no overall preference. You ought to ask him that if you get back with him too.
Any bi person is perfectly capable of loving someone of either gender, I advise you to confront him and ask him what his intentions are.
But do not let him use his sexuality as an excuse for being indecisive. At the end of the day, if he loves you he loves you.
2007-11-28 02:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by mysticalactivist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By leaving him alone and moving on, there is always someone better right around the corner if you just look up for a change instead of thinking about him all the time. He is doing other things and people. We always want what we can't have. He did not get off the gay site because of you, don't fool yourself into loving what is not there. Sorry about your pain it won't last forever. Something better always comes along, don't be used.
2007-11-28 10:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by kat21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still dating his ex? I don't think anyone who dates his ex and yet is intimate with you as well can be trusted. And you never know if he's going to decide, yet again, that he has other 'priorities'. I realize i wont be the easiest thing to do if your feelings are so strong, but try and stay well away from him. Go out and try and meet someone who reciprocates your feelings :) xx
2007-11-28 10:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants a relationship at some level but he doesn't necessarily want an 100% monagamous relationship. If you can have an open relationship, with some clear strict rules about getting regular tests, it sounds like he would like to have a relationship with you. If you want a 100% monogamous relationship, it sounds like you need to send him packing and look for someone else.
2007-11-28 09:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but when I read this I immediately thought of Hannah Montana. Anyway, he seems like he's not going to be faithful to you. Especially if he's doing all of that stuff. Don't get involved with him again.
2007-11-28 09:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by skrdude8389 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run from him as fast as you can....there is plenty of others to choose from. I hope for a good outcome. A person to fall in love with is a person you cannot help to love because they show love towards you in many ways....not in bed. John
2007-11-28 10:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by enginegojohn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow him off no matter how much you love him. In fact if you really love let him go, in facr inist he goes if you love yourself. You will both be better for it - he is in a quandry and using you to float through life.
2007-11-28 09:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by SEAN V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting as much as sex where ever he can get it, do you want to be on his list.
2007-11-28 10:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋