i'm only 30 but i feel old sometimes ?

Question

I'm 30 but i feel old sometimes. I know 30 is really still young i don't know if it's because i'm under a lot of stress. Just had surgery am divorcing single parent of two kids and also moved recently. No matter how stable i try to make things my life forces these major situations to take place I hate it because i'm the kinda person that wants to live in the same place work at the same job fir yrs i mean yrs. Any other reasons i feel this way and does anybody els feel old. Sometimes i don't feel like i have energy for my kids I work in a factory 10 hrs pick them up sitter after 6:30 i cook help daughter homework wash dishes give baths do load of clothes check mail I literally don't sit down untill 9;30 10;00 pm Any ideas it's very hard to have any kinda life with this schedule

Answer 1

Something is fishy about this question. A quick look at your profile reveals that you have been here on Y!A, asking 13 questions in the last day alone. If you're so busy every hour of the day, how do you have time to post this many questions? I suspect your life is not as full of responsibility time as you're making it out to be.

Answer 2

If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it...
That's the way I look at it.
I'm a working, single mom as well. I only work 8 hrs, but the rest of my day is just like yours. I have 1 daughter and she's 8 months old. So as soon as we get home, I'm preparing food, washing clothes, pumping milk, etc. I haven't been to the bathroom alone in 8 months!!!
If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change anything. I love my daughter and I love my job. She has made me a better person.
I just pray hard, eat right, and wait until the weekends when I can get some much needed rest.
You're a woman, We can do ANYTHING!! Trust me, we were built to multi-task and be strong. Your kids are paying attention and they are very appreciative even if they don't know it yet.

Answer 3

Yes i used to feel that way but i dont think being 30 has anything too do with it. I felt like that around 27 same situation single mom ,2 kids, work ,no sleep, restless nights etc. It took alot out of me then I became active in my spiritual life and after a few months I started to see a change and after a year things got better. Now i am 30 and I sleep well my kids are happy I found a different job that allows me too spend more time with my kids and I love life. Hang in there you will pass this stage in time in the meanwhile stay positive!

Answer 4

I agree with Valerie, having young kids makes you feel old. I have an almost two year old and I feel so drained a lot of the time, I wonder where all my energy went. I also work 14 hour shifts, the graveyard shift at that, and on my days off I have to convert to having energy to take care of my daughter. Just try to put your feet up for a few minutes each day and be optimistic, when you feel depressed it will only exhaust you further.

Answer 5

You are stressed and drained of any energy you could spare. I think that you are operating on your reserves right now and if you are not going to top up you tank you will be running out of steam. You need someone to help you in your responsibilities a friend or maybe family member. If need some time off. You need to make some kind of an arrangement to get that time off.

Answer 6

I try to do something fun and family oriented on the weekends. Picnic, hiking, something active that we can do together as a family. Something to create memories no matter how small. I find that during the week it is just impossible to do anything other than work, chores and sleep. Been trying to create time to get in a workout during the week, impossible! Get up @ 5a.m. get myself ready for work, get the baby up, fed, clothed then off to daycare and work, pick her up @ 5:30 or 6:30 depending on when I get off. Get home, time to feed, play, bathe and in bed by 8pm for her. Then I get my time to eat, wash and sanitize bottles, laundry, maybe catch a show and in bed by 10pm. During those moments I enjoy and cherish those small victories of knowing that I'm doing the best that I can do.

Answer 7

you should feel better by stepping back for a minute take a deep breath and think about how much of a good job you are doing and that you are a special person to keep powering on no matter what, give yourself some credit allot of other people go down hill but your a fighter!! good on you!

Answer 8

You obviously have a lot going that is exhausting you. Get rested, recover from the surgery, and take one day at a time. Maybe you're looking at too big a picture right now.

Answer 9

Well my dear welcome to the real world, Please know im not trying to be mean.... my day consist of the same thing.. and to top it off my hubby is a truck driver so not only am i doing the mom stuff i also have to be the dad at times. and im only 31! take a breather sometimes and enjoy what you do have.... some people dont have a wonderful life.

Answer 10

I think everyone with young kids feels this way.

You will actually feel younger when you get a bit older and the kids aren't such a drain on your day. Hang in there, you can do this, just as those of us who went before you did!