Is this a sign that he is a cheating or a cheater?

Question

My hubby is always telling my how attractive he is and how he knows he is good looking. I of course tell him this same thing all the time, but sometimes I get a weird feeling when he says it. He is a police officer so his hours are wierd and he comes in contact with a lot of women on a daily basis. He looks around at other women a lot too when we are out. When I ask him why he does it he says it is because he is a cop and isn't loking for the reason I think. He also get very deffensive. Am I being too sensitive or could this be a sign of more going on? BTW I am 7 months prego too

Answer 1

What?? He should not be looking at other women when you are out. Does he look at other men? Haha. No, you are absolutely ok to think this is going on. My husband is a military police officer and isn't cop-ish like that, but everyone he works with IS and most of them cheat on their wives and girlfriends. I'm not saying your hub is cheating (I REALLY hope he isn't), but the people he works around probably are, so that alone is enough to raise suspision.

Just maybe don't let him get too cocky, and don't be afraid to tell him off!

Answer 2

I think that you have every reason to be concerned, but I don't think that you should be jumping the gun right away. I really think that you should sit & let your husband know that you are questioning his faithfulness. And ask him why there has been this change in self confidence. Is this your first child? Maybe he just feels that all of your attention is now focused on your child, & he's trying to build his confidence before your child is born. A lot of men feel left out when a newborn comes into the family. And some of that may mean that he is needing to feel attractive by other women as well.

You really should let him know how you feel about it. Don't let him get all defensive & walk away from it either. Make him talk to you about it until you feel you know he's telling you the truth. I learned that I should never SETTLE for something that I want to believe....I deserved the truth. And you should feel the same way, even if it's a little painful to hear.

Answer 3

All cops have big egos...that is one of the reasons they are cops! I have had a very married cop stop me while on my daily run and tell me crap like my ponytail was hypnotizing him! Many think they can say or do anything because they are in a position of power. Your hubby could just be all wrapped up in himself or fooling around...only you know what kind of man he is. What I want to know is why all his focus is not on you and the child that will be entering this world soon? Keep an eye on him and best wishes with your pregnancy!

Answer 4

Get a pin and pop his big head.

Just because he's looking at women doesn't mean he's cheating. I look at handsome men (not obviously) and I would NEVER cheat.

The arrogance would bother me, it's actually a deal breaker for me and any man. I cannot stand it. His hours may be weird but if he's a cop he should still have a normal 8-10 hour shift right?

Do you think maybe you feel a little insecure because you are pregnant and your body and hormones have changed? If I were you, I'd need more evidence than him looking at other women and praising himself 24/7...Good Luck :)

Answer 5

most men like to look.. maybe he is insecure thats why he wants your reassurance that you think he is good looking, usually police travel with a partner so its hard to do anything shonky uness the partner is the same, but anyway it sounds like he should be telling you how beautiful you are as you are carrying his child, dont stress too much,ifkeeps comming home your doing right!also if yous sex life has died out this may be another reason for these thoughts. and if this is the only issue in the relationship at this stage, you guys are doing well!! your hormones must be running wild and you must stay focused on looking after yourself.. all the best!

Answer 6

You may be over reacting. I am not sure about the calling himself good looking thing (sounds a bit weird to me), but the rest of it sounds innocent. Yes, he's a cop. Yes, he come in contact with lots of people. Yes, he is trained to pay attention to everything. Yes, he is a guy and is going to look at attractive women. But none of this means he is cheating.

Answer 7

Doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating but he sure is full of himself! He IS looking for the reasons you think he is, don't let him BS you with COP talk. Who does he think he is fooling? Not me...You are stuck with a pretty boy and at some point he may cheat but it's not a given. Keep your eyes open and don't be a fool but don't accuse unless you have proof either. Good luck, he ain't going to make your life easy...

Answer 8

Another young and dumb one!!?!?!? How many of them are you!?!? Here are some facts you obviously have not learned yet:

1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair

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Answer 9

lol @ his excuse "I am a cop"... if he is only looking at women he IS looking at women for the reason you think! it's absolutely rude, pregnant or not... a real man appreciates his pregnant wife... basically, him looking at other women, especially in your presence, is a form of cheating, and emotional abuse...! being 7 months pregnant, this is not good for the baby! I am sure your blood pressure rises each time you notice him looking at another woman! that baby senses something is going on... perhaps nothing else is going on... but, this is too much! I'd put my foot down, cop or not... jerk... he's an absolute jerk...

Answer 10

i think your pregnancy has alot to do with your feeling maybe your self esteem has gone done because your so much bigger and be honest sex changes This is a common fear among pregnant women. It will go away when you regain your figure Or your rite you may be sensing he doesn't like the way you are now i doubt that but it does happen. Anyways i really wouldn't worry unless he starts acting differently Believe me you will know.