My sons father has not paid maintenance for him in the last 8 years (apart from the six months arrears before he got married, which he paid at £20 per mont) IThe CSA have started chasing him. He has not contributed to my son at all in the way of clothes, pocket money, haircuts, school etc (he is 13). He contacted me last night regarding the letter he got from the CSA and said that he didn't want to use them he wanted to deal direct with me (we had an arrangement like this when my son was between the ages of 2 and 5 and basically he just paid what he wanted when he wanted) When I refused he shouted abuse at me down the phone but more disturbingly telephoned my son on his mobile and started screaming at him to tell his mother she was a 'f******g b*****d. My son was distraught and is now scared to go and see him incase him and his wife have a go at him. I cannot afford to go to a lawyer does anybody have any idea what to do (I tried to speak with him myself but got told to F Off
2007-11-28 00:54:36 · 7 answers · asked by Gym Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you let csa deal with this disgusting person. and take him for everything he got. he not soft wanting to deal directly with you. he knows you a soft touch. and don't be intimidated by him. be strong. best of luck.
2007-11-28 01:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell CSA, they will take care of him. See if your Son has to go with his father, he may be old enough to make up his own mind. Don't ever let him bully you into dealing with just each other and keeping CSA out of it. If he does this again try to tape him so you have proof.
2007-11-28 01:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not very adult of your ex-husband to take his frustrations out on his son. Does he want a relationship with him?, because his attitude is going to drive the boy away.
Your ex needs to grow up and face up to his responsibilities. I have found a free phone number for you for Gingerbread ( a single parent charity) 0800 018 5026. I would ring them now because you need some advice now and a sympathetic voice to listen. If they can't help you, they will know who can.
Go to the CAB as well, but you may have to make an appointment.
Somebody to listen to you will help.
Good luck.
2007-11-28 01:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by charterman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of he day if the csa are asking him for money there is nothing u can do its up to them once they have made contact with him its out of your hands im afraid just point out to him that its not your fault and that he upset his child by making them coments about you good luck
2007-11-28 01:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by symiss 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Best thing is let it go. You can't get blood from a stone. I feel if pushed by the CSA he will simply move out of their reach. It benefits nobody at all.
2007-11-28 01:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Phil McCracken 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just let the CSA deal with it
2007-11-28 00:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Snot Me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-28 01:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tesse Malou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋