I had my son 5 months ago. I had him when I was 18. It was a rough pregnancy. I had put on everything possible for stretch marks the minute that I found out I was pregnant. All of my efforts did not help I got really bad stretch marks, they are embarrassing. I don't think that i will ever find anyone to have a relationship with cause i'm so insecure about my tummy. Do you think things will change? Will I find that someone anytime?
2007-11-27 23:33:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK First... You will meet someone no matter what you do or don't do, NO QUESTION!
You wabt to be careful of some guys though because the mentality that is so prominent is that women who have a child are "easy targets" ... you still want to be up front but set boundaries right away, and stick to them even if they are difficult.
BE YOURSELF! dont try to be a workout freak or change anything about yourself that you dont think you can maintain after in a relationship/married... The right person will accept you however.
This is not saying first impressions cant alter things... because before you really know a women a guy will be superficial about things like that even though they may not feel that way once they know you... for this reason be smart and control some of it... let him get to know you before you allow him to go there... if after you know each other and are really starting to connect if he runs then its best but most guys it wouldnt even be a blip on the radar and when you reveal it he will be like "thats no big deal"
Concentrate on being a great mommy and the right guy is going to love you more for that as well!
2007-11-28 01:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rutroh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off, your stretch marks will get lighter. Second of all, dont worry about it. Child birth is beautiful thing. There is someone out there for everyone and you will find someone baby and all. I think you need to look for a guy a little older then you and more mature to help you with the baby. There is going to be a person out there who thinks everything about you is beautiful even your flaws. I think you need to have more confidence in yourself and stop thinking like that. The better your confidence is the better chance you have at success. Good luck!
2007-11-28 07:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you it will not matter. If he is stuck on the fact that you have stretch marks from having a baby then he isn't worthy of your love. Someone will come along you just need to concentrate on the most important thing which is your child and yourself. Everything will fall into place on its own.
2007-11-28 11:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Shades 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone loves you, they love you no matter what. You have to remember that the strech marks are there coz of your son. I went through the same thing with mine. but believe me if someone comes your way that likes you for you, they wont worry about the marks as much as you do. Just think of them as battle scars. A battle that you won, you got ur son through them and they fade in time. try coco butter, it works really well. Dont worry about finding someone or worry about the marks. Just concentrate on your son.
2007-11-28 07:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, your stretch marks will fade naturally as time goes on. You can also try using body butter as it helps to lessen the discoloration of stretch marks but honestly they will start to fade. You will find someone that is going to love you stretch marks or not. Wear them with pride as you went through alot to get them.
2007-11-28 07:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone who will love you for you and not for what your tummy looks like. I had two children who were extremely large babies and I was always self conscious about my loose skin on my tummy. Then I met my lovely husband - 20 years married, together for 22 years - the rest is history. He also loves our girls too and he is their dad and no-one had better ever imply he is not. He is a wonderful grandda too. Good luck x x x
2007-11-28 07:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by takethatfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It;s that simple : first you don't have to give up on your tommy : workout and get back the lovely tommy you had through consulting other women who have been into this .
I am a man but don't think your tommy will affect in anyway the way I feel with someone I really love .... and that one is there for you , just need to wait for the right moment to come
Good Luck
Migo
2007-11-28 07:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by keladakelada 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Medication and doctors advice better for your stretch marks.
Love will come purely without physical judgement or sexual attraction.There only a man in your life that truelly love you for you are...just wait and mean while move on with out searching for relationship.
2007-11-28 09:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time girl you will find someone who will love for who you are. You don't want someone who is only looking for a physical attraction and the strech marks will fade after a while
2007-11-28 08:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by kellygirl01060 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most guys don't care about stretch marks, only boobs and pussys. If a guy is picky, he is a jerk. If you are feeling insecure get an abdominoplasty or go to a gym. It takes about a year for a woman to recuperate. You should read Barbara Delangelis books.
2007-11-28 07:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋