Hello.
I've seem to have reached a dead end. I'm 40 yrs old now, have a well mannered child, good job, own house, own car. But for the last 2 yrs I've been dating a mentally abusive guy. Obviously, I didn't know for a long time what he was really all about. Bit like; 'You can't judge a book by it's cover!'.
In the beginning he was very big on honesty and communication. Being faithful was the most important thing as his wife of 17 yrs had an affair with his mate. Well, I've since found his profile on Adultfriendfinder.com (sex site)! He'll rejects me physically all the time but as soon as I walk out the door, he logs onto pornsites! We're building a house now but he always critizies me and rejects me yet compliments all other women in my presence though I'm quite attravtive. He blames me for everything though it has nothing to do with me i.e work. I'm finacially commited for 1yr at least. But how do I stay alive when I wake up everyday hoping it's my last - not wanting to look at me
2007-11-27 22:34:35 · 8 answers · asked by faithfulalways 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have a friend who has just left a relationship like yours,she
was never physically abused,but mental abuse is just as bad,
tends to be something intelligent men do(cos it leaves no real
marks)except in your mind,you seem to know the answer already,play it smart and dont let on what you intend to do.
If something is hurting you this much,you need to be strong and leave this situation behind(when the time is right for you)
2007-11-27 23:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took you 2 years to figure this guy out?
His wife left him for a reason,not because it was all "her" fault either.
Your building a house with this guy?
Why? Are you wanting 40 more yrs of this treatment?Do yourself AND your child a favor, GET out now.You are teaching your child that it is ok to shack up and financially commit yourself with a person who will NOT commit to you, and that the way he treats you, is how women should be treated by their b/f or husband.
2007-11-27 23:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stay you only have one life do you really what to feel like this because your partner dislikes himself
he puts you down to make himself feel in control
money is nothing you can start again
pick yourself up and walk out the door ,its hard at first but you can do this you do not have to tolerate this man putting you down and making you feel horrid
i used to feel the way you are and i did for nine years
i lost everything my car my house my business
but i did leave and aim so happy
i have no money i work part time
i have a rented house
i have an old car
but aim a live and i don't have to be scared any more when the keys go in the door i can sleep and iam wanted to enjoy life
so many people go thought this pain but you don't have too
all you do is take your cloths
go to family if not contact woman's aid they will help
it makes me sad and reminds me of what i went through
you can leave you have to
all you have to do is walk
the rest of your life can begin and things will be OK
i would love to help you all i can do is give you advice
grab your soul back it belongs to you not him
2007-11-27 23:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's easier said than done sweetie, but leave his a**. The only reason why he's making you feel that way is because you're letting him. Quit making him feel important. All it is.....is that he has some self esteem issues and the only way he can make himself feel good is by showing how much control he has over you. I know you love him, and I understand how you feel to the fullest. You know what though? I think that if you just put your foot down and pretended like you were going to leave him for good then he would see how insecure he really is and how much he needs and loves you. Because it seems to me that he does love you......he's just acting that way because he thinks that you're not going anywhere.......which you need to make him think otherwise.
2007-11-27 22:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's time to let him go. ur relationship is not complimenting each other anymore. he is actually making you weaker everyday instead of building you up. there r times u have to part ways with someone even if you love him to make u a better person again.
2007-11-27 22:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by dani l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay in that abusive relationship any longer. You are still young, and can find a good man that will love you and treat you right. don't wait until you are older and can't find anyone!!! Do it now!!!!
2007-11-27 22:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard of BPD - borderline personality disorder?
2007-11-27 22:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by one blue eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run and dont look back.
2007-11-27 22:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋