hi ihave a problem about my mom..
She had a depression...
My mom and my sister has bad relationship.
and now my mom thinks that im an enemy too.
we argue sometimes not because im hard headed.She is the one who makes our problem big.everytime she loud her voice on me.i just listen and i dont talk back so that theres a no big fight.The thing that i couldnt understand in her is she doesnt listen to my explaination...and her thought is always close?
how could i help my so she realize im not an enemy to her..
i trying to be nice and good..and doing my resposible as a son and friend also..can some1 give me an advice?
2007-11-27 22:18:24 · 5 answers · asked by dxterz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She may need medication for her depression. Try writing her a letter explaining how you feel.
2007-11-27 22:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depression can be very hard for the sufferer to come to terms with, and it can end up affecting their relationships with their entire family. Writing her a letter is a good idea, but she could easily tear that up. Maybe suggest that the two of you go to counselling together to work through you communication issues as a whole. This is because you also need help to know and understand how to talk to someone who is or has been depressed, it's not as easy as it sounds.
She is your mother, a part of you for life. Ignoring the problem will not make it go away, and I'm sure that in time you do not want to be alienated from the person that brought you into this world.
2007-11-28 06:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a difficult thing to deal with. What I have found out about parent child relationships is that it really doesn't matter who is wrong or right family needs to stick together. If anything you need to tell her that it hurts you when she doesn't trust you. If you don't argue back with her, then there is nothing to argue about. I find this works best. Even if you are the child you can take the higher ground and set an example for her to follow by not participating in drama or conflict. Try that, things will change if you make them happen for your self. You have to please yourself, it is your moms job to do that for herself. Maybe you could ask her what is wrong and listen to her answer without commenting. I am sure that she has problems beyond what you know. The kind heart always wins.
2007-11-28 06:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a little like you might be describing some paranoia in your mother. (Unless she's using drugs, or drinking? These can cause paranoia.) The following articles have a lot of good suggestions that might help you:
2007-11-28 06:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard because older people think they are better than you...therefore, never listen to you.
I have the same problem with my mother as well. You tried about everything, and still no luck... what you can do is just mind your own business and live your life. she too old to change... and your just wasting your time.
2007-11-28 06:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by cheng 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋