I m very stressed because of my husband..can you give me an advise?

Question

I am married for 1 year with a young man.
I m so stressed recently because i m going to school and working at night as a waitress.
I stand all day, cook, clean, put in order the house and then when at night I finally lay on the bed I wont have my husband around.
He s so heavy and pushy.
As soon as i step in the house he kisses me and does not even let me take off my jacket....he wont understand is too heavy.
I need my space just to relax a bit otherwise i ll end up in a mental hospital soon.
What can I do with my husband?
I m so tired that i can't even make love with him...
Do you think I dont love my husband enough?
Can the stress kills the desire for my husband?
I m worry and in the same time i can't stand anymore my husband...why? Please give an advise

Answer 1

It sounds like you're just over worked and stretched too thin. It's normal to not have much interest if you're exhausted all of the time.
Hubby is also probably really missing you since you're schedule is so full. Tell him you need a few moments to unwind when you first get home. Try to make time once a week or at least once every two weeks to be attentive to his needs.
If he's just too demanding even when you explain how you're feeling then you might try some counseling together to help you through till your schedule isn't so rough. Best of luck!

Answer 2

First of all , I can't give you advice, but i can tell you what I would do"
10you should ask you'r husband to help with half of house chore's he live's there TOOO!
2) take fewer classes for now until you can afford to just go to school,while he work's and pay's the bill's
30 he might put up a n arguement that that would be too1 much for him, but in the end when you finish school you will be making more money , and will have more time on you're hand's that is if you don't have kid's right away.
40 have him join a gym if too1 heavy for you , and make meals to help him lose the extra weight,
5) take life a bit less serious, all can't be acomplished in one year , give yourself time to gt used to him and him to get used to you"
It really take'sfive year's in a marrage to find out all about one another and thenit will last.

Answer 3

here is a snapshot. hubby and I both work full time, I have three children (teens). when we are off work I do the cleaning ,cooking, laundry, food shopping, taxi to sport events, and pay all the bills. He watches tv and computer. I have little time to myself. 12 years...I learned to adapt because he has some depression issues.

Stress can certainly kill the desire. I am tired all the time. I recently called into work because of a 3 day headache, that turned into a unliveable migrane. I slept for 15 hours. I was exhausted, apparently.

positive thinking gets me through all of it. think of the reasons why you love him. that will get you through it, plus a network of friends at work that are very supportive.

Answer 4

You need to find time to decompress before you actually physically walk in the door. Stop at the supermarket before you get home and walk around and breathe for a second. Stop at a park and breathe. It would hurt his feelings at this point in the marriage to push him away and be irritated with him for wanting to love you when you first walk in the door. Might as well fix it before you walk in. It probably will only take 5 minutes extra each day to decompress. Then you can remember how lucky you are before you go into the door.

Answer 5

"I'm so tired I can't even make love with him" -- that is a warning sign. Try a bubble bath or showering together, something that is relaxing, tell him to go slow, that you need lots of foreplay to relax, and then enjoy each other.

Don't cheat both of you out of the sexual part of your relationship. And talk to him directly -- tell him you need a few minutes to unwind when you first get home before you start being affectionate. Good luck.

Answer 6

What does your husband DO around the house? Maybe you should tell him to help with the house chores so you don't have to be so stressed out everyday. If he can't help, I wouldn't do his laundry to lessen my stress. You're NOT the maid and just because you're the woman does NOT give him an excuse not to do chores.

Answer 7

sounds like you and your husband need to talk... if you are tired, stressed out and need rest, then he needs to understand and give you space.

if he can't, well, do what's best for you -- whatever that is, i don't know.. but you don't need someone overbearing who has too many expectations and no consideration.

Answer 8

I don't think its that you don't love your husband anymore. You should'nt have to ask that though. That much stress in your life will totally kill your sex drive.

Answer 9

This is a perfect example of why men and women should never get married!!!