I'm not sure about something that happened at work tonight but it's on my mind so I thought I would get your opinion...
There's a guy who I've only really said hello to and have talked about work related stuff with. I was on the phone with a guest and while I was on the phone, he started touching my shoulders and arms (a close friend works with me so I thought it was maybe her so i didn't do anything). Just as I was finishing up the call, he moved his head close to my face and was about to kiss me on the cheek and I gave him a dirty look. He made a joke about how I gave him a dirty look and I pretty much ignored him after that and he went away.
What he did just bothers me because I don't know him. I'm not sure if I should say anything or just see how he is in the future. I know of a guest complaint about him whistling at another guest as she walked by so there is a small history of him doing inappropriate things while on the job.
How do you think I should handle this?
2007-11-27 17:30:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Law & Legal
Keep a close eye on him and if it happens again report it..
2007-11-27 17:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Nance_1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that every man deserves to be told NO before you run to the boss.
It is NOT sexual harrassment to be hit on by a co-worker.
It IS sexual harrassment if you told the person you were not interested and they continued to make advances.
Make it clear that you are not interested and want a business relationship only...that's all you have to say.
It's not your business to report what you saw done to someone else...let that be their problem...you'll start looking like a gossip who is trying to stir up a lawsuit...and that can put YOUR job at risk...they can always find a legal reason to get rid of you.
If you tell him NO and he approaches you again, then I would go straight to my supervisor and report it, and let them know that you previously told him to stop.
That makes it appear as if you tried to handle the situation yourself, that you didn't want to make a big deal out of it, and HE is the problem....major difference in how employers view it.
2007-11-28 06:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Expert8675309 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it .. he is inappropriate so steer clear of him...if he tries to get friendly tell him you are not interested ... if he continues to bother you THEN report him to management. If you make a big deal about this now you will make an enemy and he will try to make your life hell if he can and could even take violent revenge...there are a lot of screwed up people out there who will hurt people if you get on the wrong side of them...you don't want that ... Based on his behavior with others, in time he will probably get himself fired without you having to get involved in getting that to happen..
2007-11-28 01:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would document tne incident and report it to the HR department IMMEDIATELY. There is no reason to wait for him to try it again, and he might misconstrue your silence as acceptance of his behavior. Once you report it to HR, then they will be able to pursue a course of correction. This also keep a record of your report in case it does happen again. If the company is aware of the situation and takes no ation to correct it, and it does happen again, you may have a case against the company.
2007-11-28 01:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Piggiepants 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST -- tell him not to ever touch you like again. Tell him you don't appreciate that type of behavior from anyone, but especially in the work place.
Next, should he do that again, report him to your supervisor or HR rep.
Then if he continues it is absolutely sexual harrassment. If he stops, it's over.
2007-11-28 08:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by leysarob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him know it is bothersome to you or offensive in any way and he continues the behavior, then it is harrassment. As a one-time event you would not have a case - however, you are within your rights to report the event.
2007-11-28 01:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Rich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear these stories daily......I would talk to him first and express my feelings to him. But you need someone that can back you up in case it gets hairy. Ask him for an apology if he does not appologize then take it further. Dont hesitate!!!
No woman or man should take sexual harrassment lightly.
2007-11-28 02:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by jojo6119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this was definately sexual harassment. If it is unwanted it is harassment. You should report it to Human Resources. This guy could be harassing others too.
2007-11-28 06:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like sexual harrassment.
Tell him that his behavior towards you is not acceptable.
If he does it again, report it to your superior.
2007-11-28 01:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by red riter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any unwelcome sexual attention can be construed as sexual harassment.
2007-11-28 01:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋