I have been put in a very difficult and uncomfortable spot.
My last ex-boyfriend is now dating my sister..... We dated about 4 years ago, and I am now happily married. My husband and I both think this is just wrong of my sister to do this, especially since my ex and I did not part on good term's ( he cheated) She thinks I still have feeling's for him (not true) I just can't stand him, I feel sick every time he is around. I am being told by some people to get over it, but I am really not enjoying seeing him at EVERY family get together.
Anyone have advise about how to deal, or should I just sit tight and hope they break up...
Our my husband and I the only ones that think this is bad?
2007-11-27 17:14:11 · 9 answers · asked by rubyslipper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It would be natural to think that because you dated him before, but hey now that you are broken up and don't like each other anymore then of course you wouldn't like it if your sister was dating him because you don't like him anymore. You should tell your sister how you feel about all of this and if she doesn't want to listen then you will really have to cope with it and hope for hte best.
2007-11-27 17:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by LiZi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships like this happen all the time. My boss is married to his aunt (she was a widow)...and I dated my ex-husband's brother for 5 years, and it was a much pleasanter experience than the marriage. We did not have contact with my ex-husband however. I never went to family gatherings when he would be there, although I did see other family members at other times, and on very amicable terms. I can understand how you feel.
You said you do not have feelings for him, but that is not true, you feel sick when he is around, so that indicates you haven't resolved this relationship.
I realize it is uncomfortable, but you can still be civil and attend gatherings while avoiding a lot of one-on-one conversations. It would be nice if your sister understood how you felt and didn't invite him to family functions, but evidently it doesn't bother either one of them. You will just have to tolerate it, or stop attending things when he is present.
2007-11-27 17:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a hate you are not willing to let go of. If you're happily married as you say, why worry about whom your sister is seeing and why. So, she is dating someone you once dated... No Wrong There in My Eyes. Let her be and allow her to find her own happiness in life. Or is that what you're wanting to deprive her of? It also sounds as if you're afraid he's getting closer to you, through her? There is nothing bad or wrong with your sister having and wanting to show/share her feelings to this guy.
2007-11-27 17:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sis is in the wrong. It's terribly selfish and inconsiderate of her and the other family members expecting you to endure him being in your life. I'd be telling my family if they like him so much then enjoy their time with him because you won't be around. I'd risk missing out on family get togethers rather then having to endure an ex. It doesn't matter if you still had feelings for him or not, they are wrong! Best of luck!
2007-11-27 17:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is because a sister should never date there other sister boyfriend or ex they should never do that because then your sister would be telling him all these stuff about there own sister and that's just being so rude to one another and then that boy would be like "i don't want to be with that girl after what her sister told me that girl is just " see what ever he say he is going to think of you another way than he use to think of you.
2007-11-27 17:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have more respect for you than that. Act as if it does not bother you and try to limit the time you are around him.
2007-11-27 17:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never 4get 2 share u r problem with u r husband he will give the solution.
2007-11-27 17:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by batista_nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nop that competly wrong. You should try to advise your sis to breakup with him so he doesn't break her heart and cheat on her too.
2007-11-27 17:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wrong. Talk to ur sister about it
2007-11-27 17:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by sugarstarz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋