how do i get my husband to know that i need more intimate attention? i did tell him but nothing yet .?

Answer 1

your not alone in this. many couples go through this and sometimes its even flipped around the other way. I am a passion parties consultant and I say that you should buy him some sexy stuff if you know what I mean ;P and show him how much fun being intimate again can really be! If you threaten him with this kind of a good time and there is no responce, well then it may just be time to move on. You have to have a sexual relationship as well as a mental relationship other wise your marriage will never work. Always remember one is not more important than the other, physical and emotional connections are VERY VERY important things. Good luck.......

Answer 2

Heather,
One cannot demand intimacy in a married life though it is cruel not to meet the partners requirement unless the two have decided to part. Both the partners should feel giving and taking intimacy. Many things are not clear from your note, you only mention the issue not what other factors are probably involved in it. So, I can answer only broadly. Use your judgement to find the solution.
You need more intimate affection, you have asked your husband, he is not giving you. You have presented your requirement, now, instead of trying to again persist on it, think yourself how you could improve the situation or how to make him feel to give you more intimate care. Think about the how things were and are between you two. Think whether the things got different from some time or were they always like this. If things got changed in between, think what could have led to that. Think about your husband's work timing, his possible stress levels when he comes from work, whether he looks tired etc. Think about how attractive and clean you look when he comes from work, how you receive him. Or if you also are working, how you spend time with each other when both are free. Think how you take care of him, whether he finds you as a caring wife or a ngging, not doing anything right kind of person. Think about how the scene is in the bedroom. Think whether he comes with a lot of worry, tension. Has he ever been not able to satisfy you fully and does he know that and whether things started slipping after such incident. Think how attractive you look in the bedroom and how you interact with him. Listen, the success of physical relations between two people is largely dependent on how confident and comfortable both are with each other and themselves. If he has any worry or fear of not satisfying you, he may try not to do anything. If he has reasons to feel you are not attractive, he may not get close with you. He may also keep away if he feels he does not get enough care from you, not physically but in other marital responsibilities. Avoid arguments or shoutings or fighting, such things affect physical relations. If you thinks he might be worried about how to make you happy, dont say for a while that he need to do this or that. Just encourage whatever little he does and however little he makes you happy. Let him build his confidence to approach you and spend time with you. Once you think where all you could make changes or make improvements yourself. Do those slowly and make him find you caring, attractive and irresistable. He will come after you. I am sure. You could achieve this and live happily with him. All the wishes..

Answer 3

Heather, were you specific about what you needed? You told him what, exactly? Do you yourself know exactly what you want from him?

How about making a nice candle-lit dinner for him, putting on some soft music, and dressing in an outfit that he likes? Meet him at the door with an adult beverage of his choice, give him a massage, ask him how his day was, be more intimate with him. I know that's something that I respond to.

Answer 4

Damn...where are all the women like you? Three wives, and all turned to cold fish after about 5-7 years. What's up with THAT?

What was his reaction when you told him? Did he just laugh it off? Did he give you any reasons? You need to keep talking, just try not to harp on it TOO much. But if you don't resolve it, there's trouble ahead.

It's a fine line, because if you harp too much, he'll get frustrated and push back. Try not to make it sound like criticism, but maybe come at it like "hey Sugar, are you stressed lately? tired? what can I do to help" and see how that goes. The best thing you can do (besides getting all sexy and talking dirty and just making it known subtly that you are "in the mood") is just keep the lines of communication open.

But what do I know. I married three hotties that turned on my after a few years. *shrug*

Answer 5

well try to share some intimate moments, to create the right atmosphere. maybe take a bath together once you are there, show him what you like and take your time. if that does not work, seek some counseling. also be nice to him, tell him things you like about him, spend time together doing stuff that is fun for both of you
good luck

Answer 6

What exactly do you mean by that? Has he been ignoring you? Have you not reached an orgasm ever?

What exactly is it? Explain what you require from him in detail and I think it shouldn't be too difficult. Sometimes I think that the way the relationship goes also affects the sex in the relationship.

It's a cycle. If there are too many arguments and differences, the sex is affected. If there is no sex, there are again too many arguments and differences...

Resolve these, if you can.

Answer 7

A lot of women want it, need it or expect it but go to bed wearing a long t-shirt and sweats. A guy needs something visual to really get him going. Slip into something sexy, get under the sheets before he knows it. That's a nice surprise when going to bed.

Answer 8

if he didnt listen the first time you told him he.s either having problem.s or has a woman on the side. my opion?