Hi
I m engaged and going to marry in january.I am afraid for first night....as i am not virgin ...whether my husband can understand that i am not virgin...?
2007-11-27 16:25:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These days many women do not have an intact hymen anyways because of their hectic lives. So, if you don't want to tell your husband now, it would be ok. Just tell him that you have been a very active life and hence you felt no pain, blah, blah... if it comes to that.
However, I think that you should tell him the same when you feel that the relationship is much more committed. If you feel your husband is not ready to take the information, don't tell him.
Sometimes, we women need to keep our secrets.
2007-11-27 16:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by babasbhakta 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to make that life long commitment to yourhusbaand and to god do not start of in a lie set him down and tell him the truth.If his love is as strong as I think it is he will understand and ya'll will be able to work through any thing after all he did ask you to marry him didn't he that means he want to spend the rest of his life with you no matter what good luck and god bless
2007-11-28 00:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
in today's world and era , don't u think this Q is a little outdated?i do not think , men ask such Q's now, but if u r really worried, may b u shud talk with ur fiancee, about it.or do like they used to do in earlier days, keep a small vial filled with blood coloured solution or if possible blood ,itself . and use it the night of ur marriage.
2007-11-28 02:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by chocolat2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you told him you where, you're in for trouble. Not being honest is a bad way to start a marriage. He should understand unless you've been a sleaze bag.
2007-11-28 00:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live honey? It depends on your culture. Most people would know this before they talk of marriage. Is he a virgin? If he expects you to be one than he should be one too.
2007-11-28 00:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u may find this strange, but telling him is the best shot u have, a man expect his wife (his own) 4 the first time, so, u should straighten it up with him ASAP, u have to..
2007-11-28 02:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by A's 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should understand if he truly loves you. But I'd say he's no virgin either. Congratulations and Good Luck!!
2007-11-28 00:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by mikk 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not take a lifelong step of marriage with such secrets. He deserves to know the truth before you marry.
2007-11-28 00:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
if you think he'll not bear ur truth,then don't tell him
in the 1st night, act like dumb that u know nothing about sex
n feelthe pain artificialy so that he can't make out u r not virgin
i don't think he'll make out the truth............
all the best
2007-11-28 01:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ankita P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth before you marry...you wouldn't want to start your married life with a lie ryt?
2007-11-28 00:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by justME 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋