what do you think?

Question

ok i am not sure where to start but here goes me and this guy have been engaged now for almost a year we usually talk at night before we go to bed but here lately he don't answer the phone when i call ( he don't have a home phone just a cell) and he is alwys saying he is asleep which he has been working extra hours at work but i have been cheated on before and i am now afraid he is doing to me too or i am i just parinoid that he will cheat he says he will never cheat on me and he don't believe in that and i am afraid if i don't stop i am going to push him away i love him with all of my heart and dont want to loose him so please help

Answer 1

He could be working late and tired and doesn't want to answer the phone. How often do you call him? My wife used to call me 5 times a day just to say "hi". After a while I got real annoyed because it disrupted my day and work. Maybe he thinks that the excitement of talking at night has faded and he's just tired and wants to sleep. If you are feeling insecure, because you were cheated on before and now the same feeling is coming back, you'll need to get to the bottom of why he doesn't answer your calls. If it is because he is tired and doesn't have the energy to talk, or maybe he is talking with someone else, somehow you need to get this answer asap and find out if it's worth continuing feeling the way you do.

Answer 2

Hi,
If you and he are engaged for more than a year, when you are planning to get married? If I understand your concerns and I think there is reason for you to be worried. But if you ask him whether he is cheating you, he would say only no. Anyone will say only that. So there is no point in asking him so. From the note I assume that you and he are living far off and there is no way you could go to his place and see for yourself. So, give him the benefit of doubt now. Tell him you understand he must be tired because of excess work and so you dont mind him if he does not call you at the time you used to call each other. But tell him you would like to talk to him before you sleep because you love him so much and he is so dear to you. Tell him hence to call you just before he goes to sleep whenever it is. That should relieve you a bit. Dont ask around about him to anyone he knows yet, just use your own instincts to decide things are fine with you. After all you are not married yet and if he is actually trying to cheat you will know of it one day and you could feel that you got saved. If not you can live happily together. But if you keep harping on the dobut you express now, he may feel you dont trust him. Also, you cannot judge him based on your past examples. Everyone is different. Hence take it the way it happens. All the best..

Answer 3

He may be telling you the truth, just being too tired. It is good to be cautious because one never knows. Is it possible for you to spend the night or visa versa? See if he continously makes excuses not being able to give you the time. If he cannot, I would ask him to give you a call every night, just so you know he cares. Sorry, there really is no way you can tell if he is cheating on you, only in time. Listen to your instincts.

Answer 4

As the cliche goes "ignore it and it will go away." H'es indirectly telling you what's up. Hardly a man I would want to be engaged to anymore. He has no respect for you or your feelings, and sounds like a loser. You can do better. Keep the ring, change your phone number.

Answer 5

He is taken, he is engaged. Not answering the phone should give you the hint, he isn't interested. Find some one that will be true to you.

Answer 6

If it will make you feel better drive past his house when he does not answer and see if he is home. Ask him tomorrow if he was sleeping again. If he was home lighten up and don't think the worst until he gives you a reason. I hope he is home.

Answer 7

More than likely he's not.it's when he doesn't answer ,then you should worry about it.

Answer 8

love is trust, until he proves you wrong, he is faithful.