second hand smoke :[?

Question

both my parents have been smoking since i have been growing up nd now i am a young teen. it is terrible because its lyk somethin that is killing me that i have no control over- i try so hard to get them to stop but nothin ever works. my parents recently seperated nd my dad was out of the house for a long time nd at that time my mom never smoked in the house so it was all good- now he is back in the house for a while proly a year nd he smokes nd i cnt stand it. i cry about it. he trys to hide it- one night i was in my room nd he was in the basement nd i could smell it so i tld him nd he flipped on me. :[[[ plz how can i get him to stop nd how much is this effecting my future? :[

Answer 1

You parents are adults who have the right to make their own decisions and do whatever they would like to in their own homes-it is not your place to tell them what to do. If they were smoking in your room, you could request (not demand) that they don't since that is the space they have given you as yours, but in the end it's their house=their rules.

Also, you should know that there is no reason to be so dramatic about second hand smoke. Yes, it's not ideal, but my children are the first children in half a dozen generations in EITHER mine or my husband's families to grow up in a house where no one smokes inside.....and second hand smoke never killed me, my husband, my 3 siblings, his 6 siblings, my dad and his 5 siblings, his mom and her 9 siblings.....and so on and so on. They are all perfectly alive, perfectly healthy, and never had any issues with it. If it starts **actually** effecting you ask your parents to get an airfilter.

That's all you can do. When you grow up, move out, and don't let anyone smoke in the house you pay for....since at that point it will be your house=your rules.

Answer 2

It AMAZES me that so many people are defending these actions. If parents want to be selfish and kill themselves by smoking, then by all means go for it. However, there should be no reason for them to put their children's health at risk because of their disgusting habit.

Truth be told, I was a smoker for EIGHT YEARS. I have quit and been smoke free for 2 months now. I know with all of my heart that I will be smoke free for the rest of my life. I did not want my children seeing their mother, a huge influence in their life, doing something so disgusting. Howeverm even when I did smoke, I NEVER smoked in my house or my car. I always went outside, and washed my hands and santitized everytime I came back inside. There is nothing that pisses me off more than seeing someone driving down the road, with their window cracked a couple of inches, puffing of a cigarette with their children in the backseat. Or seeing someone holding their child while puffing away. Or walking into a house that makes your eyes water from the smoke, and seeing their poor children being subjected to this. Honestly, it makes me want to slap the taste of out these parent's mouths!

Yes, the parents may very well pay the bills, and they are the adults in the situation. But first and foremost they are PARENTS. A parent's job is to keep a child safe from harm. How in the hell are you keeping them safe from harm when you are increasing their chances of being unhealthy? You are basically poisoning your children and it is disgusting. Quit being a selfish *** and walk outside to smoke.

Now that my rant is done...back to your question. I am so sorry that your parents are putting your health at risk. Have you taked to them about this? Maybe you can show them some facts about second hand smoke and the effects on children? If they still choose to smoke after you tell them how much this bothers you, I am afraid there is not much you can do, and I am so sorry that this selfishness is in your household. All you can do is see what is happening, and know that you will not put yourself or your own children (someday) through this. Good luck.

Answer 3

Second hand smoke is a bunch of bull. I'm sorry, but that crap about it being worse than firsthand - no scientist has ever supported that. Now yes, it can be harmful, but only over long periods of exposure. A year isn't really doing that much. Just go outside when he smokes - secondhand smoke only lingers for about 3 minutes. You're not going to die from it, once your out your lungs will go back to the way they were, accounting for whatever slight damage was done. 2 years after smokers quit their lungs go almost 100% to normal (not completely, but almost - cells constantly die and grow back). You'll be fine, just go outside if it bothers you.

Answer 4

You can't really stop someone from smoking it's them who has to want to also. And from the things your saying it sounds like he doesn't want to. The only thing that you can do is tell him to go outside and smoke. Then you won't have to smell it unless your outside with him. Then when he's done his smoke he can come inside. The other thing you could do is go to your local doctors office and ask for some pamphlets of smoking and the factors of it. Then give them to your dad. He can read them and then maybe he will quit.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter if he is in the basement or not. Parents that smoke in their house have no regard for their kids. My parents both smoke in their home and their cars, even though one of my sisters has sever asthma. Real great! Smoke seeps into every crack and crevice of a house, and under doors. My parents know that if they want to see my son that they cannot smoke in their home while he is there (He was a preemie), but the smell still lingers. It is a nasty, disgusting smell.

Answer 6

you aren't alone
tough thing is my parents smoke more than just cigarrates my dads a huge stoner and my moms well also one..
just avoid it don't expect them don't know how to stop it they have since they were young and
it's a bad habit
it's a really hard process ad I doubt they WANT to quit and you have to want to quit to do it

tell them how you feel about it
it can or can't be bad
it depends on your condition
for me it's really bad(I have 1 lung not working and fatal athsma)
yes of course they still do but it doesn't bother me
I'm not around it
you don't hear my whining

try just telling them you really love life and don't want it cut short
show the dangers that is causes young teens like us
with most people it's not bad just too much is bad as in really young and around it constantly

Answer 7

It sounds to me like your parents are trying not to smoke around you. If he's smoking downstairs, that means you probably aren't getting much secondhand smoke at all, if any.

Honestly, I think you just don't want your parents smoking, and the secondhand smoke is your focus as a solid argument on the topic. Let your parents make their own choices, and if they light up around you, go outside or into your room.

Answer 8

I inhale the second hand smoke, my parents smoke in the house in the car wherever I go with them.

It's just smoke.

From my point of view, It's nowhere near as bad as smoking, as smokers take large ammounts of smoke through their mouth directly into their lungs.

passive smoking/second hand smoke gets filtered through the nose and, well yea that's just my opinion. I don't find it very harmfum if at all.

Answer 9

I have to agree with doodlest... If your parents are already going into another room to smoke, stop worrying about it. I know from experience that it sucks when a parent smokes. But if they're showing you enough respect to walk out of the room you're in, then that should be good enough. If talking to them about quitting hasn't help, go to God. He can help you through anything.

Answer 10

http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/full/326/7398/1057
“No significant associations were found for current or former exposure to environmental tobacco smoke before or after adjusting for seven confounders and before or after excluding participants with pre-existing disease. No significant associations were found during the shorter follow up periods of 1960-5, 1966-72, 1973-85, and 1973-98.”

“Enstrom has defended the accuracy of his study against what he terms ‘illegitimate criticism by those who have attempted to suppress and discredit it.’". (Wikipedia)
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2164936/?tool=pmcentrez

------ Court rules that environmental tobacco smoke (ETS) is NOT a Class A carcinogen
http://www.tobacco.org/Documents/980717osteen.html
“There is evidence in the record supporting the accusation that EPA ‘cherry picked’ its data” … “EPA's excluding nearly half of the available studies directly conflicts with EPA's purported purpose for analyzing the epidemiological studies and conflicts with EPA's Risk Assessment Guidelines” (p. 72)

-------- OSHA will NOT regulate something that’s NOT hazardous
http://www.osha.gov/pls/oshaweb/owadisp.show_document?p_table=INTERPRETATIONS&p_id=24602
“Air contaminants, limits employee exposure to several of the main chemical components found in tobacco smoke. In normal situations, exposures would not exceed these permissible exposure limits (PELs), and, as a matter of prosecutorial discretion, OSHA will not apply the General Duty Clause to ETS.”

Study about health & Smoking Bans – The National Bureau of Economic Research
http://www.nber.org/papers/w14790
“Workplace bans are not associated with statistically significant short-term declines in mortality or hospital admissions for myocardial infarction or other diseases.”

http://www.cigarmony.com/downloads/smoking%201440.pdf
“Conclusions: Our results indicate no association between childhood exposure to ETS(environmental tobacco smoke) and lung cancer risk.”

Dr. S. Fred Singer, an atmospheric and space physicist
http://news.heartland.org/newspaper-article/2011/01/03/secondhand-smoke-lung-cancer-and-global-warming-debate

Showtime television, "How the EPA, CDC, Lung Association, and etc." support their claims.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGApkbcaZK4

US National Cancer Institute researcher explains the frauds involved in secondhand smoke media reports.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K9gtMKB6X2o

Then the US Surgeon General went over all the studies to date in 2006 again and even though he went on public TV and announced "No safe level", the report itself showed exactly the opposite.
---The evidence is … not sufficient to infer a causal relationship between exposure to secondhand smoke and an increased risk of stroke. (p. 13)
---The evidence is … not sufficient to infer a causal relationship between secondhand smoke exposure from parental smoking and the onset of childhood asthma.(p. 13)
---The evidence is inadequate to infer the presence or absence of a causal relationship between exposure to secondhand smoke during infancy and childhood cancer.(p. 11)

http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/library/secondhandsmoke/report/executivesummary.pdf