I'm a fairly attractive male, reserved but talkative once you get to know me, very dark curly hair with gray highlights, blue eyes, age 21, tall, with a very slight Southern accent. I also can't get single women to talk to me for my life!
These are four very recent examples (with the last 12 months or less) of 20s-aged, attractive, bubbly, and married or engaged women hitting on me:
1. Just LAST WEEK, I had an engaged woman (who has become a friend just over the last 3 months) ask me if she could stay at my house when she moves to my town in January for a new job. She also asked me to Starbucks and gave me her phone # first!
2. I had a married woman at work, intelligent and cute with two kids, trying to leave her supposedly jerk husband and hitting on me very hard. I turned her down politely.
3. I had each another engaged AND married woman smile at me first in class and initiate laughter and conversations this semester--multiple times.
Help me understand, please.
2007-11-27 16:05:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't think I'm stroking my ego. That's the common answer for ladies toward men with whom they disagree. But, most single women are closed, snooty, and devote all the energy to the "hard to get" game.
2007-11-27 16:20:05 · update #1
Women tend to seek in another man what they are missing with their current man. They might have a man who takes care of home, and provides for his family, but he has the inability to be affectionate or romantic. You might have a women who is married to a man who does not do the wild, and crazy things he did with her when they were young and dating. On the flip side of that you do have the women who marry/engaged, and it's for a matter of circumstance instead of love (ex: Oops I'm pregnant). Bottom line is you have something that there relationships are lacking, it may not be something the would leave there partner over, but it gets them the attention they want, and they put what you have to offer, even if it's just a true conversation, with what their partner brings home, and the world is complete.
A woman wants five guys wrapped up in one:
1) The listener - We don't want you to fix the problem, just let us talk to you about.
2) The mechanic - We want to know that what ever problem we have that a man has to fix, we have "our man" there to fix it
3)The communicator - Believe it or not, women don't want guys to be mushy, we just want you to tell us what we need to do in order to keep "our" relationship together because when the relationship does not work out, we automatically try to guess what we did wrong
4) The family man - The man who knows how to balance his family life, hanging with the guys life, and his spiritual life.
Last, but not least:
5) VERY, VERY, VERY GOOD SEX - A man who is very good at four-play, a man who will help you open up the wild side that you have suppressed for so long, and a man who knows when it's time to have sex, and when it's time to make love. Someone who makes sure you get yours first before he gets his.
This was a long answer, but I hope it gave you some insight on women as well as your current dilemma.
2007-11-27 16:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Major points for keeping these women at arms length. Just like with young women who latch on to married men, it's a bad idea. Once the second woman's divorce goes final she's free to do anything she wants with you.
Remember, just becasue they smile and talk to you doesn;t mean they want to have your children Romeo. Take that into account, they may just be stroking their own ego.
You may also want to consider that that tis the type of single women your hanging around that lead to the ones you see. Get some new people to run with and go places where women don't gameplay.
To its just me: THANK YOU!! Finally a woman who will tell us something ratehr than run off to her bookclub and complain. I'm printingt that out hon!! I hope if you have a man tahte he knows that. show him the post even if you thing he does.
2007-11-28 01:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are reading too much into things and stroking your ego a bit too much. If you stay clear of situations that involve married or soon to be married woman, you shouldn't have an issue.
2007-11-28 00:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's probably because you're more relaxed and confident with women who are technically unavailable because you aren't worried about the impression you're making...and women are drawn to confident (not cocky) men.
2007-11-28 02:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by AshletD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably being used at those times, I say enjoy it
2007-11-28 00:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by MH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have big bulgin thrue yur trowsers :D
2007-11-28 00:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hoes get married too
2007-11-28 00:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU GOT SOMETHING
2007-11-28 00:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋