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I was dating this guy for a while & things were always hot & cold with us. He use to say he had issues with letting someone in based on what he went through with his ex-wife. I was dumb & thought that showing him how much I loved him would make him let go of his past. We had a big fall out with no closure & we cut all communication. About 7 months later he sent me a text message out of the blue asking for a gift back, but I quickly realized that was just a way to see if the lines of communication was still open like he did in the past so I did not respond. About two months after that text, I just started thinking about him. It's been almost a year since I have seen or talked to him, but I can't get him out of my head & I don’t know why. Part of me wonders if he was feeling like this a few months back when he sent that text.
2007-11-27 16:03:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Another part of me wonders, even though it took two months to kick in, am I thinking about him because of that text. There’s a saying (Just because it feels right to you doesn’t mean it’s right for you), and that’s what he is to me. I feel he will always be that person who does not let anyone in, and no one purposely puts someone like that in there. With that being said, I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t think about “us” or could we ever get back together, I think about what we use to do, and how that made me feel on the inside. I just replay the happy times over, and over again. I have been on the dating scene & having a lot of fun, and I have even created some very magical moments with guys I have dated & are now dating, but recently, I have not been able to stop thinking about the happy times he and I shared. What would you say it is?
2007-11-27 16:04:02 · update #1
I think you need to focus on the future. I think his "issues with his ex" is only an excuse. You need to find someone who will love you without reservation, and you are doing the right thing by dating. You may have had some good times, but those are over. You should forget this loser.
2007-11-27 16:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was really into you in the first place, he wouldn't have let his past relationship get in the way of his relationship with you. That was an excuse. As for the gift, don't respond back. He may be thinking about you because he is lonely and dateless for the moment. Don't read more into it than is really there. Most men will even admit that they really aren't so complicated - they aren't. If he was asking for a gift back, it could very well have been because he wanted the gift back. And don't humiliate yourself by allowing him to use you as a "Plan B" or back-up date. You need to accept what happened and only look ahead.
2007-11-28 00:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shake it off and stop looking back wards. You have a fabulous future ahead of you. When a man or woman say things like it is because of my ex. It usually means they haven't gotten over them yet. If you would feel better, mail him the item he requested with a little note, telling him you wish him well in live but that you are happy now and to lose your number. Besides, you did the best thing by not responding to his text. a real man would have called not text. He was probally just lonely and figured you would always jump for him.
2007-11-28 00:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by pony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is the place to get your emotional garbage. You date one person and possibly become intimate only to break up and start all over again. Then you date someone else and you begin to know all their family and friends. Then you break up again and start all over. Then one day along comes "the ONE" but because of all the garbage inside of you, you miss your one true love. And without some serious outside influence you can not get it back.
2007-11-28 00:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Preston V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was lonely and wanted to see if he could get something from you. I dunno. Let it go. There is a reason why it didn't work out. Do things to keep yourself busy instead of wondering.
2007-11-28 00:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like if it was you he truley wanted his past would never came back to him leve it alone and go foward just like he did my opion?
2007-11-28 00:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED CLOSURE
2007-11-28 00:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋