My fiance and I are getting married in Sept 27,2008,I love him with all of my heart. I just found out that he cannot have kids and I am very fertile and I don't have any kids yet. I love kids and I want kids one day,please give me some positive advice, I really need it.. Thanks :(
2007-11-27 15:31:11 · 9 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's willing you can always opt for artificial insemination. If he's not you can call of the marriage or adopt. I suggest you discuss this w/ him before you get married.
2007-11-27 15:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not a simple question. Wanting to have your own children is a big thing for a woman, and just because you SAY that you can deal, doesn't mean that 2 years or 5 years or 10 years from now that you won't really regret it and then resent him for it. Is it fair? No, but it is biology. If it is truly important to you to have children of your own (and clearly it is, or you wouldn't have mentioned it on here) you may have to re-think your choice of mate. A lifetime is a long time, and sometimes decisions that you make in haste as a young person are not the right decisions for the long run. Giving up such a large piece of yourself is really hard, and you are talking for forever--or a divorce down the line. It is something to take seriously and really search your soul. I wish you luck. You may just have to choose between your love and your children.
2007-11-27 23:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want kids, adopt. But you both better talk about this now, not later. Trust me the whole thing of pregnancy is not fun. So spare the pain and Adopt.
2007-11-27 23:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by pony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you... do you want to live without kids of your own... would you be willing to adopt or have some procedure done so you can get pregnant?
If you don't mind then go ahead
If not... then I wouldn't get married.
2007-11-27 23:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adoption.
2007-11-27 23:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not give up having kids, it was very important to me. If it's important to you then find out how he feels about alternative ways of getting pregnant.
2007-11-27 23:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jen70 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adopt. Your children will love you for it. I know I love my parents for it.
2007-11-27 23:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Freke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's ok if you and him are willing to take care of a child adopt one, it iwll hopefully be the fruit of all your love :)
2007-11-27 23:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Julia P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when you say he cannot have kids do u mean vasectomy? does he already have kids? if no, then what about invitro or something like that?
2007-11-27 23:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋