when do you really throw in the towel? I have 2 daughters and the last year has been really tough on the family. I was out of work for 4 of those months,,,now have a great job,,, i am a good dad(not a father). My wife is a great mom,, we have not slept in the same room probably going on or over 3 months. I am wondering if there might be someone else in the picture now. She has never been a real affectionate person,,, we've been married 12 years and dated several years prior. I have not cheated on her and will not cheat on her. I couldn't do that to my kids.
When do I throw in the towel.
2007-11-27 15:13:47 · 9 answers · asked by billy b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good question, sweetie, and good that you don't intend to cheat.... betrayal is the deal buster in marriage, I promise.
In your place, you guys need some counseling, and don't brush it off as worthless... After 12 years and two kids, you two need to reinvent your marriage, affection or no affection. Any marriage of 12 years and two kids could use a "tuning up". There are many books out there, but THE sex therapist in the country today is Lonnie Barbach. Get her "For Each Other" anywhere in paperback... worth every cent.
Things wear out hon.... teeth, tires, clothes, cars, and yes, marriages. 200 years ago that really wasn't a problem: the average age was about 40, and most every one was used up by 50, dead of infection and childbirth and injuries. Both of you need some honest truth in your ebbing marriage, and that means some help. If she won't go, get a session or two by yourself.... a real eye opener. And there are therapist who specialize in couples and marriages.
2007-11-27 15:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see... hum....it sounds like time for a good talk. Try counseling. There could be something really bothering your wife and you both need to get to the bottom of it. Maybe, she is in menapause. Nasty stuff, affects everyone differently. But seriously, call a counsler, you go and talk first, then bring her in when counsler says you are ready. Tell her you are going for counseling, maybe she will be willing to go right from the start. Sorry, you gave little info to really go on.
Good Luck!
2007-11-27 23:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by pony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't do that to your kids?? How about to yourself? Anyway, there has to be a reason that you have allowed your wife to sleep in the other room for over 3 months. Women don't just take their pillow and go to another room for no reason at all!
2007-11-27 23:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does she do??? is she around the house all the time
why are you not sleeping together or doing anything else i am sure for that matter. If the marriage is to work sounds like you two need to do some talking, and get some help if things are to work out,
2007-11-27 23:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't! Not for the reasons you stated.
You knew exactly who you were marrying before the wedding. So what makes you think you can complain now?
Good luck.
2007-11-27 23:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After both of you have tried marital counseling. If that doesn't work... throw it in buddy.
Good luck
2007-11-27 23:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You must honor your wedding vows.
Talk to her, find out what is going on. No need to guess.
2007-11-27 23:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
only when it is up. but dear be patient sometimes learn to take it for longer times time is great leveler
2007-11-27 23:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by B D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try counseling.
2007-11-27 23:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋