my husband would rather sit on the computer and play games then spend time with me and everytime I try to say something about it there ends up being a fight.What should I do?
2007-11-27 15:11:36 · 19 answers · asked by Mercedes Lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Says the lady on the computer.....LOL
Say...
"Look, two options:
1) I break your computer into a million pieces and force you to spend time with me
-or-
2) You and I go out to dinner. As in NOW"
Good luck :)
2007-11-27 15:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear of another modern world syndrome again. It happens almost everywhere now on earth. Guess is nothing much u really can do especially not wise in direct confrontation.
Someone suggested that u join him as well which is not a bad idea after all. Maybe sharing my actual story with u may help u relieves a little. Cos I myself was once so addicted to the comp and almost turn down everything as in even sex! See how serious it can be. We also at the brim of divorce.
I overcome it when she suddenly get interested in 1 of the game I play and we end up playing against each other and then team together and against others on-line.
When I'm out of work , she carry on with the game and when I'm she's still on the comp and she gets so engross in it that most of the time no dinner was prepare for me.
It suddenly strike me that what was happening is happening to her previously. Finally we talk and we resolve.
I find myself very lucky or else it could be worst!
Take care.
2007-11-27 15:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you compromise?
Have couples night on Friday and Saturday (dinnertime on).
Tell him he can have all morning to before dinner Saturday and all day Sunday for games.
On the weekdays, maybe have one more couples evening after dinner where you go for a walk/play tennis/watch TV or a movie/or have sex
Other than that, it's hard to beat internet addiction especially with someone who is oblivious or who doesn't want to seem to do anything about it
BUT also I'd like to know how you communicate this. Many times women lose the battle b/c of delivery.
I'm sure he is also a brat though!
2007-11-27 16:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should ask yourself why is he on the computer. Did he start using the computer to avoid arguing with you. It seems as if you want to be his boss or mother . He has enough of that at work and his mother is the reason he married you.
Try being rational and pay more attention to what you say to him and not just fly off the handle.
You see I'm on the computer for those very reasons to avoid a confrontation. I don't need a boss, I left him at work and I don't need a mother that's why I left home. I didn't get married for the above things., I got married to have a wife and not go through all the other things. So why not try and be a wife instead of a mother or boss and quit arguing about every little thing. Have dinner on the table when he gets home, have the house cleaned and the kids ready to go to bed at 8 or 9 o'clock. Then you can have him for your self. You will have to wean him from the computer slowly, because now it has become a habit and you can't break habits, you replace them with a new one and that new one is you.
2007-11-27 15:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tom Thumb 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
first it his problem not yours. He is prolly addicted to the games! Its serious when a person spends all their free time on a computer, regardless of his excuses. you should tell him flat out the next time he ignores you you will destroy his games. And if he doesn't believe you take them! you don't have to destroy them but hide them. Let him know you matter.
Or if that is childish hit him where it hurts. When he needs/wants something preoccupy yourself with something that is just too important to stop doing. Let him see how it feels when he wants your attention, but you could care less! Like when he wants sex, or dinner. I mean that is low but sometimes men need to be hit where it matters, their penis's and stomachs!
2007-11-27 15:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's time for some seduction. Make him want you more than the computer games. That means sexy lingere and a lap dance. If that doesn't work dx him for a man who will appreciate you.
2007-11-27 15:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-02-03 03:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Stacee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was laughing when I read this question. My wife has the same complaint. When she wants my attention, she offers something different to do, a card game, scrabble, etc... But the worst thing you can do is nag him. He'll feel like you are telling him what to do. That never goes over well. Try getting into the same sites as him. It's just one more thing for you two to share.
2007-11-27 15:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sincere Lee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Compromise. Tell him what time he needs to get off the computer and hang out with you. Don't tell him he can't play on the computer...that won't work. Set time.
2007-11-27 15:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew.....I have the same problem. I KINDA weaned him off the computer by giving him a son....but still, he only gets off the comp to spend time with him...never me. I feel your pain. :( Good luck!
2007-11-27 15:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by krisindeed 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋