I need to cheer up! Has this worked for you? I think it would for me!
2007-11-27 14:46:55 · 71 answers · asked by Reading and Answering Your Q' 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it would too- worked for me!
2007-11-27 14:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Eight Belles forever 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes, it's really a bad thing. Sex is far more than just a physical thing...there are emotional and spiritual attachments that accompany it as well. Taking advantage of someone in order to "get over" someone else is not right. Instinctively, I think you already have an idea that it's wrong, and that's why you have asked the question in the first place.
Listen...whatever the circumstances were in the marriage not working out, you need time to regroup, heal, and become a whole person in your own right again. This is not the time to jump into a relationship. Slow down, regain your equilibrium, and develop your own self-confidence and sense of wholeness. Explore some hobbies, the personal interests, and enjoy being with other people. Then, should the time come that another person could be right for you, you'll be approaching a new relationship from a healthy perspective, and a good foundation. One night stands are never right...for anybody.
2007-11-27 14:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not thinking of him during sex with the other guy, then you might end up regretting it later. Do you still love your soon-to-be-ex husband and think there is a chance you'll get back together? If so, then I would say don't do the one-night stand. If there isn't a chance in Hell you'll get back together, then go for it. Ultimately, I don't believe it will help you "get over him" though. Only by A) finding someone new or B) letting time take it's toll, will cure that.
2007-11-27 14:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nosferatu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key words in your question are "soon-to-be" If he is not your ex then do not do it. If you are still in divorce proceedings this can be used against you. That being said. Random sex is not going to cheer you up. Yes it will feel good for the moment then the next morning you are going to regret it. Unless you are that kind of woman. I don't think that you are. If you insist on going out and finding someone to screw please make sure that you do it in a safe location. Dont go to his house and don't bring him to yours. Make sure that you bring protection. Dont leave it up to him and the last minute. Let a good friend know who you are with, where you are going and have a set time to call the friend. All sounds kind of scary. But that is the reality. You could end up raped and killed instead of being cheered up.
2007-11-27 14:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes... sex is not an answer to a painful heart which desires true love. Sex with the wrong person can and is dangerous. A one night stand is often with some one you just met and know little about. What about sexual STD's and what if this person is a rapist or worse. A one night stand also goes against the teaching of Jesus Christ and it is UN-morel. It is dangerous in allot of ways, it has been said that when we have sex with a another person we are also having sex with the last 10 partners this person had sex with as we tend to contract what ever those other 10 had.
2007-11-27 14:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not want to have a one-night-stand. You are still legally married and there are too many things that could happen. My husband had a one night stand years ago before we were married. He was out one night and ran into the woman and she had a gun and shot him with it. He ended up in the hospital and the woman ended up in jail. You never know what you will end up with or worse yet the person could end up killing you.
2007-11-27 15:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your an adult.if you think that will make you happy you wouldn't be the only one. but what if their a lousy lover, selfish and quick? and some times it backfires and maybe, you'll feel even lonelier. i say write down what you expect this action to accomplish for you, and evaluate. maybe you'll find that this isn't the thing to do to make you feel better. for instance, if its cause your lonely will a one nighter make you feel any better if they leave right away? or if its your confidence will you feel good still if you see the same dude leaving the bar the next night with another girl? just look before you leap, and if you still wanna leap bring a parachute for the lucky fella!
2007-11-27 15:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Trust me on this one, Yes it works all the women in my family, call it going to the Doctor, so he can make all our pain go away, and you will never really get over your ex if you don't. i would never want him to be the last one to have touched me, because I'm sure you're not the last one he's been with, that's the only way to let go of the past.....
2007-11-27 15:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be bad because you are vulnerable. You just want to prove something to yourself. But you'd probably end up running into that person again. He's not necessarily the right guy for you but you're jumping at the chance to have quick sex just because at the moment, you lack the patience to wait for a better person.
2007-11-27 14:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad, but you should want to have a one night stand for other reasons than revenge. If you find someone that interests you, and you are convinced your marriage is over, then I don't see a problem.
2007-11-27 14:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be the best. Al least, it wouldn't be something I would do. You might regret it later. When I want cheering up I go to Starbucks and get a specialty coffee and then go shopping and buy, buy, buy!! Retail therapy, always works! Do you still have joint bank accounts ;)
2007-11-27 14:52:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋