I'm married to a wonderful man and we have a great sex life. And I know pretty much every masturbates at some point, but what I do is excessive. I do it once a day, minimum, for anywhere between 2 - 4 hours at a time. Its not that I get pleasure from the act itself...the entire time I thinking "I need to stop"...but its the feeling after I finally do stop. Its exactly like being high...I feel like I'm literally walking on air, my vision gets cloudy, and I'm in a great mood...at least until I come down again and feel like crap. For whatever reason, sex doesn't give the same feeling. As I said before, I am married but my husband is on a 15 month tour in Iraq. When he's home I have no problem with this..our sex life is incredible and I have no need to masturbate. But now with him gone I can seem to stop. I just don't know what to do and where to turn. I've thought about therapy, but I wouldn't even know what type of thereapist to see or how I'd start the conversation with him/her.
2007-11-27 14:31:49 · 10 answers · asked by ME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm at a loss... And also, what am I supposed to tell my husband, or should I tell him at all? I'm so afraid of what he'd think of me.....
2007-11-27 14:32:43 · update #1
I wasn't sure where to ask this question...hence the reason its in this section...
2007-11-27 14:34:24 · update #2
It doesn't take me 2-4 hours to reach climax...I can several times in that amount of time...that's just how long I do it for. And I think its a problem when I have to do it every day, some times more than once, and it affects other things I do like my day-to-day stuff around the house, etc.
2007-11-27 14:44:37 · update #3
So, your husband is away in Iraq for 15 mos. You are remaining faithful. But you are horney. So you masturbate. Masturbation gives you an incredible high and makes you feel reeeeeeel good. And you do that several times per day. I don't see the problem.
2007-11-27 15:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with masturbation. Its your life. You don't need to tell your husband because he will get worry especially because he knows that you have a massive sex drive!. The only negative point in what you are saying is the time you spent in masturbation. Why don't you watch some porn while doing it?. it might accelerate things. Try it and enjoy.
2007-11-27 18:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by yasser h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the way I see it: you are normal!!! Most people, masturbate!! (I can't believe I'm typing this right now).
Also, masturbation isn't illegal which means you can do it as much as you want for as long as you want. :) This is your life, have fun.
I think it becomes an issue if it starts getting to the point that you'd rather masturbate than have sex (when your husband is home).
2007-11-27 15:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your husband, its not that big of a deal, at least your not cheating so don't feel bad, if you told him he might feel bad for not being able to be there, as for what to do now, i would continue, and maybe cut back a little if it would make you feel more normal, you should go all out with it and get some turbo toys, that way you might tire out more easily and don't do it as much! hope i helped! also, this could just be a phase for now, i went through something like that before i lost my virginity!
2007-11-27 14:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by TT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a vibrator and have fun. If you want to include your husband in your fantasy then tell him. If not then don't. 2-4 hours seems like an awful lot of time. May be you should find another hobby as well as masterbation...
2007-11-27 14:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont think there is nothing wrong with you. Its perfectly normal, i guess you have a very high sex drive and your husband being gone dont help. In my opinion I wouldnt tell your husband well that you do it that much i wouldnt. I dont do that stuff but I think if i did and my husband knew he would freak out.
2007-11-27 14:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by marie76444 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessary to tell your husband. You're keep your self satisfied while he can't. You're not out with another man. Plus, masterbation is healthy and if it's excessive, it's not really a big deal.
2007-11-27 14:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 102404 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your hubby (he is only going to worry that another guy will be scratching your itch)
Save your money on the therapist (what is he going to do, scratch it???)
You need to get better at masturbating.. why does it take 2-4 hours???? It takes me 15 minutes max... repeated as needed.
You will know it is too much when you are red and it burns.
2007-11-27 14:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I see no problem.
2007-11-27 18:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by stevenseeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to take a lover to me.
2007-11-27 14:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋