how can i tell him i want children now with out him getting so clammy?

Question

my fionce cant have children, he went and had tests done just after he was told he couldnt have children. i was disapointed but ok with that, we made plans to go see a specialest witch went ok, he had more tests done and then he got told he had to go in for an opperation to extract spurm straight from his balls, that was fine till we got home and he told me whilst i was hanging out washing that he dosent want the opperation witch i was fine with at the time. now im at the time where i am phisyicaly and emotionaly ready for kids. please help

Answer 1

He suffered a real nasty surprise when he was told he couldn't father children. Guys are way more spooky when it comes to their private parts. It is that castration thing. i would try to get him to talk about how he feels about having kids now as compared to how he felt about it before. you may not be able to come to a satisfactory meeting of the minds here.

Some time with a counselor to talk about the surgery, the options for a child without it and the prospect of adoption or sperm donor all need to be discussed and the whole conversation will go better with an objective third party to help.

If you just can't feel complete without a child you may have to say goodby to this man and keep looking.

Answer 2

open the computer and locate sperm banks,

say OH honey look they have a sale, we can get 2 kids for the price of one,

What do you think?

Leave flyers around the house, so he can read them and get used to the idea of it,
and then in a week or so mention it to him,

Honey I wanna have kids, lets do invitro?

See what he says,

I mean it doesn't have to be HIS sperm,

But heck my husband had the vasectomy, it doesn't HURT

and the CUT the balls off the veins, certainly a little prick in the nuts won't kill him

Just give him a little push OK

IF he still says NO, tell him you want kids, and thats what will make you happy, even if you have to adopt,

M

Answer 3

Whatever you do, do not have children... ever!

There are enough bad spellers in the world. We don't need you making any more.

Good luck.