I pay a lot of child support as well. My ex told me that I also have to pay for their basketball shoes as well since I signed them up to play.The sneakers will also be worn after the season so it is not just for basketball. I do not have money for that and I thought that is what child support is for.I have the email asking to buy the sneakers I would like to show the email to a state agency. Am I correct?
2007-11-27 13:56:08 · 12 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude come on man! Did you even talk with mom about this before hand? The shoes and uniform costs should have been talked about before hand. If you two were still married you would be paying more than just child support. But the both of you would be paying for the shoes together, hey there's a thought. You need to grow up a little bit and talk with mom as she should too before making decisions for the kids. Try that it might work better.
2007-11-27 14:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by jalwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a point with this but the whole showing the email to the state agency thing doesn't seem like a good idea the fact is that you'll be bringing in people that don't need to be brought into this. Your children don't need this to get any messier than it has to be. I would say that you both should split it, if your already paying for child support there is your half and she should pay too after all these are her kids to. If she can't see the fact that she is now asking a tad bit too much she has a problem. Yes, you did sign them up for the basketball, but kids do need to be apart of things that aren't just school and home.And like you said that after basketball its not like they won't were the shoes again. Children should not be throw in the middle of adult issues and you need to make sure it doesn't happen.
2007-11-27 22:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joint custody means joint. In Ohio activity fees are suppose to be split. I think you could run it by the agency if they are willing to listen.
My ex pays a pittance for child support, doesn't buy them any shoes or even clothes that fit. I had to cancel piano lessons after my son taking them for 5 years because I couldn't afford it. I have sole legal and physical custody. My ex would rather let the boys go without than give me the money to do things for them. Good luck.
2007-11-27 22:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to do anything except be a good parent. Pay your child support. You don't HAVE to do anything else no matter what your ex tell you as long as your current. However, do what makes you happy and if you think she cross the line then speak to someone.Christmas is a few weeks away by them shoes for that. They are both your responsibilities let them be the kids. If the line is cross then get help
2007-11-27 22:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by path2631 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, child support is for helping with everyday expensesand not for extra cirricular activities as school sports so this becomes an extra expense up and over what child support covers. You dont need to cover the total cost yourself and probably is best to work out something with your ex that would be agreeable to both especially since you cant afford it. There is nothing the courts can do for you here so its between you and your ex. Good luck
2007-11-27 22:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd buy the cheapest (but still correctly fitting) basketball shoes available. Bet you won't have to pay more than 30 dollars total if you buy at Target or Wal-Mart, and stay away from Nike, etc. While 30 bucks is 30 bucks, it's not worth fighting over.
2007-11-27 22:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop looking to be right or fight with her. if you dont have the money than tell her that and she can make provisions to get what the child needs. it not about you or her its about the kid. ask if she can get the shoes since you paid for the activity. and am sure if you come to her in a nice manner she would be more than happy to buy the sneakers. grow up. GodBless
2007-11-27 22:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of gray areas. If you have the money, go ahead and pay for it. They are for your boys, not for your ex. If you don't. Well, there is not much you can do. You just don't have the money. Go get them something in walmart. They are poorly made but could get them through the season. Explain to your boys you don't have the money. They will understand. Don't fight her on it. Shoes are not worth it.
2007-11-27 22:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're in the right if you ask me, but I don't think a state agency will help with this. If you flat refuse to buy them, will she let them go without? Is this a battle of wills, where she'll actually let the kids suffer just for the sake of beating you at this game? If so, I see why you divorced.
2007-11-27 22:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your ex agree for the boys to play basketball or did you sign them up yourself. If you didn't both agree, you made that decision and you should pay whatever the costs are that are attached to your decision.
2007-11-27 22:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Liberty 4 all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋