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I have a baby that is 1 1/2, with a man I was engaged to prior to getting pregnant. He broke it off with me half way during the pregnancy, and tired to get back together with me when she was born. He claims he was trying to work things out with me, though he rarely showed up or helped. I became so distraught over the lack of participation, that I suspected he was with someone else. I "invaded his privacy" and went through his phone, to find out that he was seeing someone. He swore it was nothing. Needless to say, a year went by (without a visit to his daughter) and now he is back saying that he would of been around that whole year if I didn't invade his privacy and would just be patient and let him adjust. It has been two months that we have been trying to be friends and work towards being together. He was canceling visits with us or showing up hours late. I began to investigate again. I saw his profile on Myspace, he says he has no kids, he says he is 39 instead of 45, he opened it the same time he was saying he wanted to get back together AND the girl that he use to be seeing was listed as his friend on there. THE KICKER IS, he never told this girl about me OR the baby. She has no idea that I was engaged to him, or that she was dating him when I was pregnant and right after I had the baby. I was so mad, that I wanted to email her. I struggled for days, and I finally did. I was nice in the email, explaining I only wanted the truth and wanted to know if they were still together. The awful things is that my daughter will probably never see her dad again, or for a very long time. I wish I was strong enough to of taken the high road, but if I was her I would want to know. And I felt so decieved. I loved this man, and was still waiting for him to come back to us. Part of me feels I did this to make a final break. Should I of thought of the baby and taken the hight road? Did I do the right thing? Help!

2007-11-27 13:32:19 · 4 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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All his actions go to show that he is an unreliable opportunist.Your love for him has been making you weak so far. After sending the mail to his g/f. you should feel relieved and vindicated.You have taken a correct step.

2007-11-29 04:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0 0

No i think you did the right thing. Without this person as a father in her life I think she will be much happier. It'd be much harder on her if he was there and then took off and didnt show up for a year that would be pretty hard on her so good job to you. Now you can find other more fitting guys to be a good dad to your daughter.

2007-11-27 13:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by skatingshopper247 2 · 1 0

You did subconsciously want to force him to choose once and for all

Its the only thing you wanted,

Don't worry , you will find someone new, forget about this loser,

He doesn't deserve you or his daughter, and by the time he realizes he isn't a teenager he'll be to old

Good luck darling,

M

2007-11-27 13:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sounds like you have whole bunch of drama to me..leave him..is not worth your time. He is only hurting you. This guy is a total jerk. Move an with your life..and find someone who treats you right. Unless you want to deal with his drama again. This guy is completely crazy..he is selfish. He is only going to bring whole bunch of drama into your life. LEAVE HIM FOR EVER>>

2007-11-27 13:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 3 · 0 1

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