It has been true my whole life....besides family i have never kept in touch with a single person...either they get tiered of me or visa-versa...i always try to be there for people....but it NEVER works out...i change my friends every year at school...college..its crazy and i dont know why..do alot of people have the same group of friends over a long period of time?? why cant i have that???!!!
2007-11-27 13:11:06 · 28 answers · asked by ~blue bear~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should find friends that will help you in the future and stick with them. It's not good to keep drifting around people because then you can't rely on a single person when you're in trouble.
2007-11-27 13:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Fire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it seem that people avoid you or you avoid people? If it seems that someone is avoiding you and you are trying to establish a friendship, try bring up-front about it. Let them know how you feel, and ask if the feel you are doing something wrong.
If you get tired of people too easily, maybe you're setting unreal expectations for people. Do you want someone who is a clone of you? This will never be possible. People will always disagree on topics, and you cannot let this be a cause of early friendship termination.
If none of the above helps, perhaps you can visit a psychologist. You may have deeper issues that need professional assistance. Do not take this the wrong way, there is nothing wrong with you. You may be different. A lot of people are. At least you're not a murderer!
Maybe you can try to meet people with similar interests.
2007-11-27 13:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by RR17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly havent stayed in touch with a lot of people from elementary and middle school, and highschool too. It's just so hard to find people when they dissappear, and especially if they dont use facebook or myspace. I have stayed friends with 1 person from highschool that I talk to on a weekly basis, and another who I talk to once a month or so, since he recently moved to England, and I have tons of my aquaintances from middle and highschool on facebook, and I've even found a few from elementary school.
But yeah, my only friend that I've really had for the last 6 years is my fiance who I met in highschool. I even am not as close to my old best friend/my niece who is my age, because we went to different highschools that were only 5 miles apart. I put in the effort to stay more connected, but she never did as much.
I have made several friends thoughout college, but when the semesters change, if I never see them in my classes, i never see them at all, and for some reason I just dont like getting together and doing stuff outside of class. I have a bit of social anxiety disorder though.
I hope that answer wasnt too long and off topic.
2007-11-27 13:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 friend from high school I kept in contact with through college too, but I haven't talked to him in 3 years.
Then, in college I had 4 good friends and now I only talk to 1 of them. But, since we're in different states we just call each other once a month and it's like nothing ever changed.
I think that when you are an adult you have your own life and so do your friends and you find a few close friends that you can really talk with and it is perfectly okay to call them once a month or once every 4 months. I have my best friend and we do this. I know she had other gf's but she's cool to me so hey.
I don't "hang out" with anyone now, I just have colleagues now and that's it. It's okay to be picky. :)
2007-11-27 13:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some friends out grow each other. Others stay friends for life, even into adulthood. It just depends on the people involved. I do not think that you ever really found a true friend and that is sad. But, it is probably only half your fault. Keep looking and keep trying. Best of luck to you.
2007-11-27 18:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by barefootin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people do keep their friends for a long time but i have that same problem, i can never keep a friend they jus dont wanna talk anymore and i dont know why either i am so nice to them. its not entirely your fault its the others persons their the ones that are gonna miss out on a good person like you or me. so jus try to be independent and dont get to close to people im trying to do the same =)
2007-11-27 13:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Moriah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's more common than you'll think.
As we move into the workforce it's harder to make friends, and to keep our old one. You'll find that people are too busy during work too socialise and too busy or tired to make plans with old friends. People also like space as they get older.
Get in contact with an old friend and see what their response is. It will probably be more positive than you think! They've probably been feeling the same way and could do with some friendship again.
2007-11-27 13:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Pearl I think you are only daughter of single mom and your mother does not want to lose you ..Her behavior shows that she loves you very much.But her way of showing love is wrong.I give you some tips_ 1.Do not have conversation with each other for a month. 2.Communicate every thing on paper. 3.Separate bed. 4.Do not bring boy friend in font of her. 5.Keep surprise gift of her choice under her pillow.
2016-05-26 04:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are way too hard on yourself. Try just having fun around the people you care about the most and if they can't stay around , then they are the ones with commitment issues. Don't be a drag and you should be fine.
2007-11-27 13:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by idiots 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friend are you? Do you listen? Are you there for them? Or are you one of those "its all about me" people? Sit down and think about some of your past relationships and try and remember what went wrong, if it was something you did ask yourself if its something you can work on. Good Luck
2007-11-27 13:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by Vee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋