How to ask for a bra???

Question

I am 13, and kinda self consious. I wear cami's with the little bra inside, and some of my friends are flatter than me and wearing a bra. I'm simply not comfortable going up and "asking" for one, or buying one myself. I have been wearing camis with the little fake bra inside, even with shirts that have high rims. I am close to my mom, but not comfortable to just ask her. what do i doooo?? Help!

One thing: I will NOT i repeat NOT say "boobs" in front of my mom! NEVAH! I think she still considers me a little girl... i wear deoderant, of course, and shave, but do not have a boyfriend, or even wear makeup!!!!

How would just asking for new underwear work? Usually the underwear is near bras... ???

Answer 1

next time youre shopping at a clothing store casually drop that maybe u need a bra. i was nervous to but theres really nothing to be scared about. now i just holler when i need a new bra and my mom takes me shopping. bras are not something to be ashamed about, they are to make u MORE comfortable. besides if u can ask us, complete strangers, u should just ask ur mom. she wears bras to and will b happy to help

Answer 2

OK, first of all, relax. Most women wear bras every day, and virtually every woman has worn one at some time or another. Once you start wearing them, they are no big deal--so, if you brought it up with your mom, it probably won't make her uncomfortable at all (especially since you said you're close).

People wear bras to a) give their breasts support; b) give their breasts a nice shape, and c) create a smooth surface under their shirts. If you don't have any problem with how your breasts look, there's no reason to start wearing one. Still, you're going to have to get one eventually.

You don't necessarily have to go for a fitting--you can find your size yourself. The way it works is this:

Take a tape measurer and measure around your chest, right under your boobs. You'll have a number in inches. Now measure over the fullest part of your breasts. You'll get a higher number. Subtract the first number from the second (so, if the first one is 30, and the second is 33, you have 3). The difference in numbers corresponds to a cup size: if there is one-inch difference, you're an A cup; two inch difference, a B cup, and so on. So, your size is the first number and the cup size. The example before would be a 30C (the sizes go by even numbers).

Not every bra sizes this way. Have you tried wearing sports bras? You don't have to worry about sizing as much with them and they're more comfortable than a regular bra. Plus, they're not as embarrassing to pick out because they have no frills.

If you're having a hard time bringing it up with your mom, try to think of a roundabout way of bringing it up. Mention that you're playing football in gym class and your chest isn't comfortable when you're running around, or something like that. Your mom is probably expecting you to ask sometime soon, and if you never ask, eventually she's going to bring it up.

As an alternative, do you have an older sister or a friend whose mom or older sister you could talk to? Maybe you have an aunt who you're close with, who could take you shopping?

Good luck!

Answer 3

An important thing is to get the right bra for you. If you go to one of the better shops (I know Macy's has fitters, I go there), go to the lingerie/bra section. It's all women there; in all sizes and shapes and ages. Go to the checkout desk and ask to see a "fitter" (to help you find a bra).

This is their job. They will help find one that's best for your size, figure, etc. AND that makes you 'look' your best.

It's OK to be nervous, your first bra is a major step in your life. Really! I remember getting my first one. Do you have a friend close enough to go with you? Or maybe you'd be more comfortable by yourself.

You'll be great and you'll look better... and you'll be proud of yourself for taking this step on your own!

EDIT: It would be wonderful if your mom could accompany you, but it looks like you're oriental and if family is 'old country' I know this conversation can be difficult. (For me it was opposite, I was wearing two t-shirts to cover my (unwanted boobs in 5th grade) and my mom told me it was time !)

Answer 4

this may sound hard if you are uncomfortable but if you are honestly close to your mom alls you need to do is explain how you feel...like "hey mom, i really feel like i am physically developing, and i would feel more secure wearing a bra. would that be a problem"
honestly your mom should have no problem, and when you consult her with things that are in that way personal it gives her a sense that she is needed and she will appreciate it.
don't be afraid...this is only the beginning of growing up...so give yourself some self confidence with that self consciousness! :) good luck. but it really is not that bad
when i was 12 i did the same thing and i was a little nervous lol. but now i really laugh at myself because it was not a big deal. :)

Answer 5

You have to ask, its the only way.....

Alot of things we do in life are uncomfortable, asking for a bar is just scraching the surface.... You will be put in way more confronting situations when you get older so its better to just bite the bullet now and realize that some things just need to be done, uncomfortable or not.....

There is nothing to be ashamed of, every girl needs a bra, and it should make it a little easyer being close with your mum.... So just do it!

Its less uncomfortable than buying condoms or sex toys or going to the gyno for a checkup or getting your period for the first time, youll have to ask for something then! ..... trust me, buying a bra for now will be the least of your worries and its nothing to be uncomfortable about!

Answer 6

Well first next time you are at the store looking for clothes or something stroll by the underwear section. As you are walking by point out a bra with a cute pattern or something. Hopefully your mom will say, "oh. . .Do you want one?" If that doesn't work than well work up some nerve, cause you are going to have to ask for one. Also your mom knows you are going through changes she's not going to laugh. . .TRUST ME.

GOOD luck!

Answer 7

Haha, it's funny because it seems as though everyone has this problem. The way I did it, was I was wearing an embroidered shirt, and I told my mom it was itchy and some of my friends were wearing bras. It seems so hard to ask, but if you are close, just don't worry about it.
Good luck!

Answer 8

Your mother will be the one to ask. she should be happy to help you. Moms get closer to there daughter when you have your first period and when you need a bra. just ask, Your talking to some one who has purchased and worn bras for years. Heres how. Mom would you help me to get a bra?I dont know how to buy one that fits and looks right. That is what your mom has been waiting for. You and your mom are in a giant club and would be happy to help. She gets to pass on information you need and she has been waiting to give you. Your a young woman and your mom is there to help, use her help.

Answer 9

What I Did became into I asked My Mum by employing Writing Her A notice And putting It someplace I Knew She could locate It. My Mum and that i by no potential communicate approximately issues like That So I Felt somewhat Awkward And Shy. yet She have been given Me some nonetheless. ;) sturdy success

Answer 10

I know exactly how you feel. Ask her if she thinks you should start wearing a bra, she'll most likely say yes, which saves you the embarassment of asking her flat out for one. Believe me, your mom will totally understand, and it wont seem as awkward as you may think.