its been a year since we broke up
he has moved on, he has a new girl a new life everyithing is great!!!
we dont talk anymore we dont text to see how we are doing, we dont see each other at all
totaly no contact at all!
i miss him even though he was a abusive violent pr:k who made me sick with anxiety and totaly down and depressed but then i think of the good times the times he was nice our house our car our everything.
I hacve had random BF since him but nothing lasted he waited and is now with a great chik who is soooooooo much prettyer then me better body, balaced, she drinks heaps (i have 1 or 2 and he always got angry that i wouldnt get drunk with him)
she is perfect for him and what makes me sad is that he could treat her so well and only treated me like a live in house wife and door mat and her like a princess
i need to get over it and then when i think i am someting reminds me of him
i get rid of all his photos but still i think of him
how can i get ova him ?
2007-11-27 12:12:06 · 29 answers · asked by boris 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we wernt married i am 23
we were engaged sory i put this in Marriage & Divorce
2007-11-27 12:23:22 · update #1
wow thankyou everyone
so much good advice and i am taking it all on bord!
this yahoo is great stuff!!
2007-11-27 12:41:48 · update #2
***** what the **** is wrong with u! U still love a man who was beating the living **** out of you!!! **** the Good times u own your self better!!!
2007-11-27 12:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your situation about why you guys broke up or who broke it off but even if you broke it off it's never easy. What I'm trying to say is that there's nothing wrong with you. It can take years to get over someone and you might never fully get over him. You really loved him even though he didn't treat you right so there's always a little spot in your heart for him. Time heals all wounds and you just haven't found the one. Once you meet that person you won't even think about him! But the worst thing you can do to yourself is compare yourself to his new "chick". He was with you so I'm sure he thinks you are beautiful. Don't put yourself down!
I would recommend doing extra activities like joining a gym, taking art classes, music classes or what ever interests you to get to know more people. Just have fun and when you least expect it you'll meet that person that will be the one for you! That person is out there even though you might not believe it now. Good luck and honestly he didn't deserve you!
2007-11-27 20:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Doodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all put up with someone being an a**. I think there is always a part of you that longs for what could have been. And that is something that stays with you. But you will get over it, remember Kit Kat you are only, I stress only 23. Wait till your my age. Things just won't hurt as much or even effect you in the same way. You be a tough girl and don't let anyone give you sh*t!
2007-11-27 21:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mooney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't know what you went through because the violence happens behind closed doors. Same here. If there are problems, you're never going to see it.
Different people are different. I still carry certain feelings for ex's if I'm honest with myself. And I'm happily married (11yrs) and have kids. I'd never trade what I have now for anything, but I'll always have memories.
Everything that happens to you helps make you who you are now. Don't fight it; roll with it. When you find the right person, you'll probably appreciate him all the more because of what you've been through.
2007-11-27 20:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lochlain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess. He was your first lover right?
It will take time to get over him.
Cut the cord now! No more texts or contacts with this abusive bum. You will meet the right guy some day and be happy instead of being miserable for the rest of your life like your counterpart will be.
You are the lucky one.
2007-11-27 20:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for what you said about him treating her so well ,, He does that for two reason one he's infatuated and two she won't except anything less ,, but ,, this I'll say ,, shes hard to get along with and later she will start to loose all that pretty ,when she does , [ the party's over ] she's snarely , Grumpy,,, I wouldn't take him back if I were you though , IF YOU'RE AVAILABLE which I'm sure you won't be .. do yourself a favor forget him , you can do better.....
2007-11-27 20:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding a new guy friend that you can see yourself with later in life just look around go out with your girlfriends and just look at guys picture yourself with them and just have fun don't worry about anything else. Hope you can get over him and soon. Been there done that heartbreak sux and we all go through it at a different pace so just have fun thats a great quick fix have fun make new memories with friends, guy friends girl friends every kind of friend just friends. Hope I helped. . . Merry Christmas and Happy New Year :)
2007-11-27 20:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by devilschild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there. it will take time. abusive men get into your head and mess with your heart and it can take a long time and alot of effort to put him behind you. to him you were a peice of property, used and now discarded for the newer cooler toy. but when a man posseses a woman like that, part of you still feels like you belong to him and it can be really difficult to let go of that property mentality because it is so subconcious and maddeningly illogical. cliche as it sounds therapy might help. do soem volunteer work, it will give you sense of accomplishment and empowerment and that might also help you to realize you deserve better.beleive me his new pretty chick is going to end up in the same messy cycle you were lucky enogh to escape. pity her. don't be jealous.
2007-11-27 20:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by theartofsong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to me he sounds like an asshole. and by the looks of it, he doesnt deserve you. so why beat yourself up about it. i know how you feel about still loveing him even after the hard times, bc im sure their was great times, but maybe thats just how he is. treats them like gold and then does a complete turn and treats them like dirt.. nd then leaves. some guys get joy out of that. try and date other people, yeah it might be hard at first because its always hard to start a new relationship after being in one for so long (idk how long ya'll were together) but its been a year! time to do things for yourself. and how do you know hes happy? maybe hes not? would you rather him not be? just be happy for him and move on. their are plenty people out there that deserve you.
2007-11-27 20:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by =] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it takes longer the forget about someone we really care about. My ex and I broke up 4 years ago and I still wake up every morning thinking about him and we have NO CONTACT with each other at all. The crazy part is that I am married now. So, it's normal.
2007-11-27 20:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things:
1. the only way for you to get over him is to treat yourself to what you love. When you do what you want to do, what you LOVE to do, i.e. (horseback riding, picking your nose), ANYTHING BESIDES HIM, you will feel better because your soul will pick up on the idea that you dont belong to him, and that you have duties to YOURSELF.
this helped me get over the love of my life, so trust me, its FOOLPROOF
it worked on my friend who's fiancee dumped her on her birthday because of a silly argument they got into
i told her this, and she was back on the ground and beaming within 2 weeks.
2. there is nothing wrong with you, and studies have shown that it takes about a third of the time you were together to fully get over your ex.=]
keep it shmiling=], spelling mishap intended=]
ohh and heres one to live by:
Everything will be okay in the end.
If its not okay, its not the end.
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2007-11-27 20:28:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋