Some people I know think that I'm either gay or bi..I'm not even sure what i am..But i want to fit in better. I hang out with girls and guys...I'm perverted sometimes..But sometimes I'm sure i say things that make people think....My voice is not high but not low either...I sometimes listen to girly music like Rihanna, Justin Timberlake..And people think its wierd that I go to girly concerts(Justin Timberlake, Gwen Stefani) Or when I got all excited when I ran into the Jonas Brothers in NYC. Please help me! I want to be more of a guy. Serious answers please.
2007-11-27 12:03:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't worry about it. My husband has been hit on by other guys because he's soft spoken, stands like a girl, and is somewhat passive. He's obviously not gay since we are married and have our 2nd baby on the way. He loves girly music too. Gwen Stefani rules! Be who you are.
2007-11-27 12:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Precious 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
You sound exactly like one of my good friends. In middle school people called him gay ALL THE TIME. People still do..but not as often. The only thing was that he's just a little effeminate (girly). He was (still is a little) exactly how you described yourself. It really got to him that people thought he was gay all the time, but as time has gone by, its pretty much blown over.
DON'T try to change yourself just to fit into a crowd!! Please, whoever is calling you these things is totally not worth that kind of effort. Just be yourself and i PROMISE this will all blow over, just like it did with my friend. Remember that in a couple years you may move away and you'll probably rarely (if ever) see these people again, and you should stay true to yourself because what are you going to do once you're out of high school and haven't figured out anything about your true self?
But, if you really insist, you could join a sport (maybe do a rec team first to muster up some skills if you're nervous that you'll be bad), try to gain more guy friends and interact with them. The more guys that know you better, the more that will realize what a great person you are regardless of your sexual orientation.
2007-11-27 21:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. You can't stop liking those things. If you are not gay and you don't want people thinking you are, tell them you're not, or give little hints that you're not. You sound way more interesting than all those guys who spend all there time in public trying to look tough, they just look like jerks. Pretending makes you sad, and you get tired of it. Besides, you sound more sensitive then most guys, that's a good thing. It gets annoying seeing a bunch of showoffs all the time. If it makes you feel any better, I'm a girl and people used to mistake me for a guy (because of my clothes and personality), well only like seven times last year, so not that much. I'm not gay either, it's just our personalities, I'm fine with who I am, I like being me, you should too. Good luck! :0)
2007-11-27 21:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My friend who's gay. Is no where near girly. He is sooo depreassed. He just hangs with girls and hates ALL pop music. But the only thing is, he thinks guys are hot. To act more like a guy, hang with the other guys that are also hanging with the girls. For example our whole group of friends consists of girls and guys. And why not hang out with those group of kids?
2007-11-27 20:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you sound sensitive to me, not gay. Just live and see what happens.
2007-11-27 20:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabethh 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
be yourself. if they don't except the way you are, then they're not really your friends
2007-11-27 20:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by heartbreaker 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋