i had a d&c on november 20 for a missed miscarriage. i was carrying twins and even though i was only 7 weeks i was sooo attached to them. i feel like i will never get over this! i just needed to vent...
2007-11-27 11:38:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Honey, I am so sorry. I've lost two babies myself. I was early too and I don't care what anyone said, they were my babies and I missed them so much. I still cry about it every once in a while. I hated when people would tell me I would have more children. How would they like it if I took away their child and told them they could have more later... I didn't want other children, I wanted those children! I realize they were trying to help but sometimes I think if you've never been through it you don't truly have any idea the kind of pain a miscarriage can cause. Just hang in there. Be sad when you want, and when you feel like being happy then be happy. Whatever you feel is totally okay.
You can google miscarriage memorial sites. I found one and you can write a little paragraph and it really helped me find some closure.
Please contact me if you need to talk. I totally know what you're going through.
It will eventually get better, but you'll probably never forget. My heart goes out to you!
2007-11-27 11:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Spanks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting OVER it isnt exactly the way I would put it. You will still think about them, love them and want them your whole life....however everyone is right when they say it gets easier with time. I had a dnc @15 wks (after I went to find out the sex of the baby or @least try to). I was heartbroken. While I was pregnant I sang and talked to my child all the time. I bonded with a baby I didnt even know I wanted till I was pregnant. Just to have it end that way. I did however get preggo again 4 months later and was scared to death. I didnt want the same thing to happen again. Luckily my daughter was healthy and right on time. I look at the first baby as my now childrens gardian angel. It helps me deal with it easier. ..Im so sorry for your loss and I hope my story helps you.....your in my prayers
2007-11-27 20:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. My friend experienced the same thing in February. She had twins who weren't able to thrive and their hearts had stopped. She was 14 weeks. It was very hard on her but she is now in a place where she can talk about it. She will always remember them but looks forward to the future. Only time will heal. Venting is a good way to help.
2007-11-27 19:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had 2 d&cs and my first born died after a month and a half in the hospital due to accident related injuries. im now pregnant with number 2 and God only knows I want this to work out! Im sorry about your loss. God has reasons for everything hun. Maybe he didnt think you were ready for twins. Just think of them as little angels that had to be sent back to heaven.
2007-11-27 19:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that happen to you but i think it takes along time to get over something like this.My mom just had a miscarriage last december and still is not over it and still has a hard time dealing with it
2007-11-27 19:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of Nevaeh and Autumn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs* i am so sorry for your loss :( all of this is still very new and raw for you... but yes, you will feel better. i had a m/c last may and i dont know if i'll ever be "over" it - but the pain does fade. i think about my lost baby all the time, but i now have my son to bring me good thoughts. :)
allow yourself to mourn for your loss and dont let anyone tell you to "get over it". they were, and are, your babies. you are entitled to grieve for them. crying, for me, was the best therapy... if i felt the need i would go to the bathroom or somewhere private and just sob.
take care of yourself.
2007-11-27 19:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. I can't even imagine what you are going through, but I do know that it will be ok. There is a song that I like and it talks about a woman who loses her baby during birth. Later on, she has healthy triplets.
Hang in there and surround yourself with supportive people.
2007-11-27 19:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by TwinMommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were one of thous mum that bond esily with their child but sadly you lost them...try and get pregnant again it will make you fell better that gos has sended you another child to help the pain when you lost the others. You will never forget what happend but another child will make things easier.
2007-11-27 19:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just had a misccariage 3 weeks ago. I didn't to the d&c because it just passed through me naturally. i know it's really hard and every time i look at a baby, it makes me want to cry. you just have to be positive and pray. you will get through this...we have to...so when our next baby(or babies) come, we'll strong and healthy and not depressed.
2007-11-27 19:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by cheeks8682 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just know that things happen for a reason. It's good that you were already attached it shows you will be a good mother.
2007-11-27 19:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by needpin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋