I'm 29, attractive, good job, in grad school, very financially stable...divorced. Ever since my ex husband i seem to be attracted to the bad boy. My ex was not a bad boy. The last guy i dated for almost 2 years was a loser. 5 years younger than me, trouble maker, had been to rehab, didnt always treat me well. Current guy told me up front he doesnt want anythign serious (he just had a baby) so i am basically a booty call i think. We've hung out the past two weekends, but he wont contact me during the week. I dont contact him at all, just wait for him. This has been going on about a month and a half. What is wrong with me? feel like i'm going to wake up and all the good guys will be gone and ill have wasted my time...why am i attracted to these guys? i really cant get this guy out of my head...he keeps me awake at night. I have not had casual sex in a long time...
2007-11-27 10:57:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont know about co dependent...wouldnt i go for good guys if i was?
2007-11-27 11:13:06 · update #1
You are co-dependent Babe, just like 80 percent of all women in the World. Need to take some courses and classes on how to be an Independent woman. A lot of good books out there too. Good luck. to you and, all the co- dependent women.
2007-11-27 11:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Left Wing kool aid stops here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it already is too late. I do not believe in violence, I have never been to rehab or drunk. When I had a girlfriend I was always faithful yet women have never been interested in me.
But it is true. Nice Guys finish last because given a choice between a nice guy and a thug, the girl will pick the thug and when the woman finally wakes up, the nice guy has decided to transform into the thug that always gets the girls, or he finds love with a foreign girl
And on a side note, although casual sex is nice, the thought of why buy the cow when you already have the milk comes to mind to guys.
2007-11-27 11:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Aenarion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's knows he's giving you a challenge, and I think that it's a woman's nature to like the thrill of the chase. I am also divorced and I still like the bad boy, I used to date a guy my x husband worked with he was married and did not want any attachments which was fine (he was also a bad boy). That was when my oldest son was 2 he is now 23 and I still talk to the unhappily married one. So how's that for the bad boy? My current boyfriend has long hair and a bad boy look. But I think this guy knows he's got you where he wants you so if I were you I'd turn the table before he gets to comfy.
2007-11-27 11:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by answer machine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop then. You don't have to be with these people. There is no law saying that you HAVE to stay with someone for ANY reason. There are things that are always deal breakers for me. for example, I'd NEVER date anyone who has done drugs. As soon as I hear, "this one time, I was so high..." that was the end of it. Even if it was years ago, even if they say they will NEVER do it again, I'd never be with them. That's just not my kind of person. I'd also never date anyone with a child. That just me. There are plenty of quality men out there, but if you are going to waste your time on these people thinking they are going to "change" or something, then you are going to keep dealing with losers.
You can be attracted to the bad boy (heck, even having a friends with benefits is fine as long as you don't feel attached), but you don't have to be in a relationship with them. That's your choice. Just my opinion though, hope it works out for you.
2007-11-27 11:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You use your hormones to make your decisions with and not your head.When you see a guy you'd like to date, GET TO KNOW HIM FIRST!
If he is not running from the law, on drugs and/or alcohol, has a job,car, home, then get to know what kind of man he is other than responsible.
No sex until you are married or you may have more kids and no dad to help raise them.
Try church theres plenty of good men there.The United Pentecostal churches are great.
2007-11-27 11:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pal has countless themes. at the beginning, there's a psychological element that stems from low-self self belief. additionally, if she have been relationship somebody greater desirable, she could experience greater self wakeful approximately herself. If she is relationship a loser, she feels that there is far less rigidity on herself and that's a feeling of convenience. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, if your pal has continuously dated losers and been in poisonous relationships and would not make any changes, then there is something incorrect. The scientific examiner interior the Trayvon Martin case mentioned "in case you have new innovations, new reports, you examine a clean e book, you modify your opinion. If somebody by no potential changes opinion, you could call them mentally retarded. You by no potential learn, acceptable?" In precis, i think of that your pal suffers from psychological and psychological impairments. clever human beings do no longer continuously make undesirable judgements relating to severe existence concerns. clever human beings might make undesirable judgements, yet finally learn from their blunders and are useful because of this potential. i believe that Dr. Bao's testimony is apropos to the situation alongside with your pal. If she by no potential learns, then on a similar time as a psychological element is the basis reason, the lack to evolve in mild of recent evidence is an psychological deficiency.
2016-09-30 06:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by doble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of self control and forethought. Why not take the time to get to know someone before you decide where and IF they fit into your life. It's obvious that you have some degree of common sense, otherwise you might not be asking this question. I'm glad you didn't mention children.
2007-11-27 11:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Low selfesteem for some reason. I had a freind that did it for the drama. She was bored with the nice guy. Not me,, I LOVE my nice guy. Maybe you grew up around those kind of relationships. Now that you have acknowlaged it research and stop it. Doesn't make for a happy life or a happy you.
2007-11-27 11:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think more highly of yourself and you'll attract a better quality person! Maybe you just needed some booty yourself-get back on track and look for better guys-you deserve it!
2007-11-27 11:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I was a bad boy, a very bad boy. We're a lot of fun, aren't we? We spark your imagination and get under your skin, right?
But eventually you'll tire of the fun, the excitement, the sex and marry a guy just like your ex.
2007-11-27 11:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋