Should I have a baby now?

Question

Just want some advice!
Im 20 years old and my husband is 22. We have been married for1 year and a half.
We just bought our first place, and this summer we bought our first new car!

I am also starting a job in December. I have been going to school, but taking a break. I will continue part time with school, but it will be doing an online program.

I really want to have a baby, but the only problem is that my mom wants me to wait. I feel like I am always waiting, and I dont think that I can wait anymore!

Answer 1

I would wait to finish school because it does get very hard when you have a baby. I had my first at 20. Also would be great if you can stay at home with your baby instead to put her in daycare and if you are staring a new job maybe no good for you economic situation to quite now. But then again you wouldn't be the first or the last woman to have a baby, go school and a work at the same time. Talk to your husband and if both of you are ready to take such a big step, go a head and good luck!

Answer 2

You're a married woman. You should be talking to your husband about this, not your mom. Why not finish school first, then think about having a family? It's easy to say you'll do it on line, but once you have a baby, you'll find you have very little time, and the time you do have, you will be extremely tired. Another thing to think about is whether your husband's job provides enough income for you to stay home with your child. Good luck!

Answer 3

I won't tell you what you should do but I will offer you my experience.

I had my first child at 20 ( I didn't listen to any ones advice) and I had to work and she had to be in day care.
I had my second at 34 and didn't have to work and still don't work outside of the home and he is now 3.

Staying home is best for the baby. When you are able to stay home for the first year without worrying how to pay the bills then have a baby. You may want to go to work earlier but having the option is always better.

Good luck in whatever your decision will be!

Answer 4

I agree. its between you and your husband. if you both think its the right time, do it!

Us women all know there is no way to switch off the maternal feeling

And it seems you've set your life up rather well.

But also keep in mind you have your whole life, :) do it when its right for you.. but dont be impatient

but im a single mum to be..14 weeks with my first.. and im 20

Answer 5

That is not your mom's choice. That is you and your husband's choice. Judging by what you wrote, you seem stable and ready to have a baby. Talk to your husband and see if he feels the same way you do. Then if he does, start trying to make a baby!

Answer 6

i would wait. you just bought your first place and your first new car. you need to get more money before you have a baby or you will end up in debt. wait until you have paid off your car at least halfway and have money for the mortgage on the house before you have a baby. then you'll have more money to spend on baby things.

Answer 7

I agree with the person above. Talk to your husband about it, and if you both agree then go for it! But, just remember you are 20! You still have plenty of time to have kids! Don't get discouraged :-D

Answer 8

Do what you want. If your financially stable, why not. Your at a good age. But Moms do know best. But its your life.

Answer 9

Talk to your hubby and if you both really want this and feel your ready then go for it I say.

Answer 10

yeah it is between you and your hubby , just remember that your life will not be the same with kids ........i just had a baby and i can't study and work, it is hard, so i just have decide to study only......