I have been with my boyfriend for quite a while now. The relationship has gone from good to great to amazing, and I love him totally.
He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I let him know that, and he tells me how much he loves me all the time, and is always sweet, kind, and respectful to me.
I have met his mom, he has met my dad, we spend most nights together, and I am spending Christmas with his family.
We make plans several months in advance, and he is always saying that 'sometime we should do this' or 'someday we should do/try that'.
I think he may be wanting more* in this relationship. How can I tell? It is kind of a touchy topic, and if I am wrong, I don't want to say anything.
2007-11-27 10:26:44 · 20 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it matters, he is 27 and I am 24, both have college degrees and stable jobs.
2007-11-27 10:27:10 · update #1
By More, I mean more permanency, or committment.
2007-11-27 10:32:59 · update #2
We've been together nearly a year, and been through a lot together (family, work, life events, etc.)
2007-11-27 10:34:26 · update #3
I don't think anyone can really tell you if he wants more because he may not be sure himself. Its obvious by the way you make plans that he sees you in his future. That's a great sign. Have you ever discussed marriage period, whether either of you had plans on ever being married? If you are serious enough to meet each others parents and spend holidays together than you are serious enough to discuss what each of your future plans are about marriage kids and whatever. Im not saying press marriage on him im saying find out what his goals are and if they are the same as yours
2007-11-27 10:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Olivero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really think about it you equally want more out of a relationship, some people just want it faster. I think that is the point your trying to get at. I believe what you are trying to say is he wants things to work faster. If you need him to slow down with his wants/needs you need to let him know. If your willing and able to keep up then...go ahead. But just make sure that at night you are both on the same page. One big key to a stable and working relationship is to not let anything be left out. If you hide things/he hides things or you both don't tell eachother things then things don't work out the way you want them to be. Good luck.
2007-11-27 10:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Living In Fast Forward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he may want more, but i think that maybe he doesnt want to be doing the same things for years and years.
I think it would be good for you to talk to him about some of these things that he wants to do "someday". I dont think any of us here can really tell if your boyfriend wants more or not, and what exactly he wants.
If your relationship has gone from good, to great, to amazing, then I doubt there is anything wrong with your relationship.
I think that you just need to talk to him about this rather than us. I doubt anyone on here can really tell you an honest, good answer from the small description of this that you gave us.
2007-11-27 10:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mike G 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perfect age for a couple. Just leave one day at the time, don't stress over fullish things and thoughts. Enjoy the moments and go along with his plans. He doesn't want more, he loves what he's got and he's looking at a long-lasting relationship with you.
Don't change a bit of what you are or have, because that is why he loves you.
2007-11-27 10:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men like to live in the moment and when he brings this up he wants to know were u stand and if the two of you are on the same level.
I feel strongly with out pressure he will prupose to u and there is a future together if he is not pressured in to doing so, and u sound like u do a good job at not doing that.
blessings
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2007-11-27 10:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by http://www.kasamba.com/light4you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very lucky. Just be honest with him and ask the same back. That is what makes a healthy relationship. If you are both christian then this bond can hold better than any other.
2007-11-27 10:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by hoselay37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "I don't want to say anything" just because you might be wrong is basically saying "I don't want to communicate".
You don't have to say something like, "It seems like you want to take our relationship to the next level, am I right?" It would be better to ask, "Where do you hope our relationship will be in five years?"
If you want your relationship to continue to be amazing, then you need to communicate even when it's not fun.
2007-11-27 10:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the first answer here. Things have been going great and are likely to continue to work in your favor if you just let things happen. I wouldn't push.
2007-11-27 10:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow and chill he loves you and that is all that matter for know maybe after another year and he does not prupose then wonder.
2007-11-27 10:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like he does. The next time he says "we should do this/that"
Say sure when??? and see what happens.
Why would it be a touchy topic???
If you to truly love one another the best thing is to open and honest.
(well thats my opinion anyway...)
2007-11-27 10:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋