Do men whom say they can't commit to marriage but have long term relationships plan to get married eventually?

Question

I have a friend whom enjoys dating and does have long term relationships (5 years) but he says he can't commit to marriage to one woman. He has just turned 50 something now and it has me wondering if men who say they can't commit will eventually get married, because it will be very hard for him to date or have the romantic companionship he enjoys when is 80.

Answer 1

Men like that will fall in love and get married in like 3 months when they meet the one they really want to marry. I would never stay in a relationship 5 years if marriage was my goal. I would walk.

Answer 2

No. I think I am one of those, I can't commit, but that doesn't mean I don't like being with the other person. We feel like in jail if the door is close and locked (marriage) that will only ruin the relationship, but if they leave it open and the gate is ready to escape whenever, we feel free and we just stay in the relationship which is not going to get more serious than to a certain point before the level where marriage is. At least that's who I am, what I have seen, we do care about people and we can fall in love. The other reason why we don't like getting married, is because of the benefits. Could you please name one benefit for us?, the guys?. I mean, is there any benefit at all?. How about woman?, it's different, right?. Usually they end up getting half of our belongins, child support (which is right, bot parents needs to be responsible) and maybe alimony too. I don't really see any benefit of getting married, if someone wants to stay with me, and if I don't get married that's a deal breaker, I just let them go, they don't really love me if for something like that they would leave me, they are leaving me anyway, aren't they leaving me already?, yes, so they don't love me. We may end up getting married (not necessarily) with that woman, who will take us as we are, who will be our partner and friend, our partner in crime, and no matter if we get married or not, she wont leave, because next to us, is with who they want to stay, that's probably the only circumstance where someone like me, may end up getting married, the rest, they can leave as they come. So to answer your question, probably eventually yes, but we have learned to be single, we love having a girlfriend more than a wife, we love having our own place, get dress, go see our girlfriend with a big smile, and just live that kind of romance, which is a lot more interesting and exciting than living in a marriage, where after a little bit the woman usually gets in shape (shape of a refrigerator), both have problems and they loose the sex drive for the most part, and none of the two are completely honest, because they really don't tell the other person how they feel sometimes, and they hide things to not to hurt the other person, it's kind of difficult. I hope this gives you an idea of how we think - at least me.

Answer 3

I have a close friend whom of which was in a relationship for 9 years finally married 2 weeks ago. He was afraid to commit but did the right thing after having 3 kids with the same woman. it is possible to get them to commit. They are just afraid of what it might be. I was told he did not want to divorce after marrying her. I thought it was a cop out personally. Now he is married and is very happy.

Answer 4

When he says he can't commit to marriage, he's being honest, take him at his word. Why are you making this more complicated?

He's telling the truth. Will he get married later? Probably not. Why? Why should he split 50% of his life savings with someone? There's little advantage to a man in his 50s getting married. Anything he wants is available wihout signing a marriage contract that puts his assets at risk.

Answer 5

Ask your friend if he is afraid of Divorce. Its easy for all of us to sit here and criticize, but when you review the no-fault divorce laws in your state, its a wonder people get married at all. You can pretty much file for divorce any time you want, and the other person can't do a thing to stop you. And the person who files usually gets a better deal, as someone ends up paying alimony and/or child support.

Look at Hulk Hogan, he was not even aware it happened until he found out through the press.

Answer 6

Welll when he is 80 he might not be able to get a romantic relationship because it does not go up anymore but anyway he can there are alot of old lady in home whos husbands have passed on and they are just looking for some campaionship. hey just look at the guy who own the play boy bunny mansion he has many nice women around him and he is what 70

Answer 7

It can work for some people, if both parties want the same thing. I would not remain in a relationship where a guy told me they never intended to commit because I have seen people who are in relationships for many, many years without getting married.

Answer 8

Some people think happiness is being single and living alone. At 50 he is already set in his ways. He knows what he wants out of life. He has made up his mind he wants to be single and that is that.

Answer 9

Yaks! its a ridiculous, well on his opinion mybe he have a problem when it comes to that paticulars words married. His not a family oriented man or mybe his a gay, mybe possible,but a marrying age is 25 up to 29 in my opinion.

Answer 10

i do not see it happening any time soon at least the men are honest these woman go out with these men thinking they are going to change them but don't of course and end up getting hurt i wouldn't bet on it.