i broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years a few weeks ago. the thing is we broke up because we had alot of stupid arguments and little fights. i am going to see him this weekend to speak to him and really want to get back with him as i really love him so much and want be with him, but he just thinks we only will argue and fight. how can i change his mind that i do not want that never again and want to make a fresh start and to know how serious i am with him and we could get relationship counseling and advice. please help. thanxs
2007-11-27 09:34:12 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
show him you can both get along by.. getting along!
words mean nothing, its always when you show someone your emotions then do they believe. so show your ex boyfriend how you can both get along by not arguing and fighting.
besides, i dont know how serious the arugments are but arguments are healthy in a relationship. it shows you care about each other. also every relationship goes through rough patches, and when you over come them you're suprised how much better your relationship can be.
just never give up, keep fighting, control your emotions as we can all do it if we try. i know its hard and fustrating sometimes, but it beats moping around for months with a broken heart.
remember, rough patches can last for months. DONT GIVE UP.
2007-11-27 10:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Hayley H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can change his mind by NOT argueing and fighting.
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A young prince decided to test the Buddha by repeatedly insulting him.
After many cruel comments, Buddha asked the prince:
"If you were to offer me a gift, but I refused to accept it, to whom would the gift belong."
The prince replied. "Why to me, of course."
"That is correct." said Buddha. "So if you offer me an insult, and I refuse to accept it, does not the insult belong to you?"
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You will fight less if you refuse to accept insults. Ponder why and if insult is being offered, instead of the natural response of striking back.
Remove yourself from the emotion of the moment. Speak and answer with your larger objective in mind.
And a few books on male psycology wouldn't hurt.
Try.
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus &
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.
Good Luck.
2007-11-27 10:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋