what do you think?

Question

Do you think that's it's a bad idea to come out to a friend knowing that they don't like gays? or do you think that'll doing it would change their mind? did you have a friend like this and if you came out to them what was their reaction like? thanks

Answer 1

I don't understand why people feel they need to discuss their sex lives with others.

What you do in your bedroom is just between the two or three of you. It should be kept in the bedroom.

Why do gay people define themselves by whom they have sex with? This is a strange concept, for sure.

Answer 2

Yeah my friend was pretty homophobic, still is, but we are still good friends and she knows im still me, the only thing is that now i can talk about how i trully feel and not have to pretend im in love with some guy when Im really thinking of another girl.
She never said that she woudnt be my friend coz of it, but for quite some time, even now sometimes, she makes some comments (even tho she might think its un-intentional) to try to 'turn' me straight, or something...but realizes its not possible, that she just needs to let me be. We dont have much issues anymore, but i will tell u that I've cooled off with her, even tho she remained a friend to me, and even gave me a lot of good advice, at the same time she was making me feel misrable with other comments...so yeah, I dont know how its going to go down with ur friend, I'm just telling u what happened to me...but if she really is ur friend, it shoudnt be a problem and she will learn to deal with it.
Good luck :)

Answer 3

Yes, I came out to a friend who was homophobic. I figured she wouldn't want anything to do with me. I was right. As much as it hurt at the time, I realize now that she's not someone I want as a friend.

The other person I told that I thought I would lose...lol, we ended up dating for a month. She wasn't so much homophobic as much as she was self-hating and in the closet. She got over it, we're still friends today.

Answer 4

If this is your best friend you should tell them you should be able to tell them anything and if they get upset and your still not friends then they where never your true friend . good luck :-) maybe they will view gays in a better way I hope for your sake

Answer 5

no ive neva had a friend come out 2 me. yea i think its a bad idea

Answer 6

I lost my best friend when I told her. Just leave it be if you want to continue to be their friend. And that is just my opinion because of what happened to me. I don't think it is a good idea, you would be setting yourself up for some heartbreak I'm afraid.

Answer 7

be you.
dont let people scare you from being urself.
i use to live my life that way
and now i really jus dont give a **** because if they cant like me for who i am, then are they really worth it?
why should you have to lie about you are to please others?
thats right you shouldnt
be who you are cause if you dont then u will never be truly happy.

Answer 8

I think lots of things, such as, "Why didn't he or she put the first detail line as the actual question?" Since many people ignore inane or vague questions, you're only hurting yourself. Makes me wonder!

Answer 9

i think you shouldn't tell them if you want to continue to be friends with this person but if you absolutely don't care than tell them and f### the world! ya dig

Answer 10

be yourself..they might react weird..but if he/she is really your friend he/she will understand you