Almost Due And Very Scared!?

Question

Hey everybody i'm nearly 9 months on december 10th. Im only 21 with my first baby i'm so scared like very scared =( Does it really hurt as bad as people say, i'm so worried and scared!!

Answer 1

Yes, it really hurts as bad as everyone says. Luckily, there is an epidural. I suggest you get one!

Answer 2

I have two children - both natural births - My Mother in law told me ( she had six natural births!) - No two births are the same, So don't listen to peoples scare stories. When the time comes just go with the flow, don't fight it and you will be fine. This was the best advice i had. When your uterus contracts to push the baby out we think of it as pain but it is not like when you hurt yourself. It is an uncontrollable spasm. It is that lack of control which is hard to deal with. The other advice i had which helped was - when it is time to push you must push and hold that push and push again - don't push, relax, push - the baby just rocks in and out - push, hold push - you will be fine. If you go in early hours of the morning and are offered pethidine - take it you may be able to get some sleep before things really happen - Gas and air is good - take it at the beginning of the contraction. The other thing i found helped was when i was having a contraction i concentrated on some lines from a song. You get to know when you are half way through the contraction and it makes it manageable. Good Luck - and don't worry you'll be fine!!

Answer 3

I know your feeling. I was 22 when my little boy was born. I was so scared. I made it through the labor and when it was time to push, I told my mom I wasn't sure I was ready to be a mother and maybe didn't need to push. lol. It is not bad at all. Of course it hurts. But you won't even remember it. I don't remember any of the pain. All I know is that I have the sweetest, prettiest, most loveable little two year old boy in the world. When you look at your babies face and feel him/her grasp your finger you will know it was all worth it and you will know that you will never feel the joy you are feeling again. It is the happiest moment in a mother's life. I still cry thinking about how blessed I am to be a mother. You will do fine. It will be over before you know it. It is normal to be scared, too. If it hurts bad, get an epidural. Good luck and Congrats

Answer 4

You are going to be SO happy I answered your question!

Here goes...I had my first (& only child) at 35 years old. I was definitely nervous about it - hearing all those horror stories over the years really got me worried.

However, once I lost my mucus plug (no big deal) & started having mild contractions (don't worry -- contractions feel exactly like menstrual cramps...if you've ever had a bad period, you're ready to give birth!). anyway, i went to the hospital & my water broke (again, no big deal)...after going thru contractions for most of the night -- tiring, but again -- not as bad as you've heard -- btw, walking is better than lying down in a bed thru these 'cramps'....I finally got tired (since I'd gotten to the hospital right after work -- I my baby came 3 weeks early(!) & stayed up all night dilating, I was told that I could have an epidural if I wanted, and it was BEST CHOICE EVER. I'd planned all along to go 'natural' -- even took Bradley classes (what a crock!), but I was tired, not fully dilated & wanted some sleep! So, I got the epidural, I and quickly fell asleep for about 5 hours...what heaven! the fetal monitor they hooked me up to (just a big belt around my middle) was going wild -- spiking every time I had a contraction that i could BARELY detect!! anyway, around noon, my epidural started to wear off, i felt the urge to push and literally delivered my beautiful, perfect baby girl, Sabrina, 6 lbs. 2 ozs. after about 10 good 'pushes'...(btw, the actual birth it feels exactly like you're taking a BIG poop -- I swear!) I had an episiotomy, too, but prolly didn't need it. Afterwards, the delivery doctor presses on your abdomen & you expel the placenta (again, not a big deal).

Don't worry, the doctor(s) will take good care of you & your baby...& then, when you're all done, you can take a nice long nap!

Good Luck & Congratulations!

Answer 5

Don't be scared, you have many choices for pain control.

I have 2 kids now, with my first I had an epidural and I really enjoyed the delivery!
with my second one they gave me some drug in the IV, It just knock me out between contractions and I wasn't able to concentrate, then the baby came sooo fast that I didn't have time for an epidural.

After this experience I would choose the epidural anytime! and never again have whaterver that drug was in the IV.

Talk to your doctor about your options. With out medication the delivery is a bit painful, but after you get your baby is the most wonderful thing, you really forget about the pain.

What I would recommend is that you do what the doctor or midwife says to you, use all your energy to help in the delivery and remember that every contraction just gets you closer to have your baby in your arms!

You will be ok. It is a wonderful thing!
I wish you the best!
blessings!

Answer 6

It is scary - you don't know what to expect but you WILL be ok, if I can do it (twice) then I'm sure you can x
Use these last few days to try and relax, make yourself feel as prepared for the birth as possible enlist the help of a birth partner etc
I found a relaxation CD each night really helped.
And yes first time it did smart a bit and I had an epidural (fantastic) but second didn't hurt at all and just had 2 paracetomol. You can never tell.
Good luck - you'll be great !

Answer 7

I was 20 when I had my first, and I now have 4, so it can't be that bad, can it, or we'd all only do it once.
For a small number of women, labour is short and pain-free, but for the majority of us, yes it is painful, let's not lie.
You have to remember that your body would never give you pain that you couldn't handle - the contraction pains are just your body's signal to you about what's happening.
Stay calm is the best advice, and you know that you will soon see your little darling. It is true that, whatever pain you have, and however long you are in labour (mine have ranged from 3 to 40 hours), as soon as you see your baby, you forget about the pain and get on with enjoying your life together.

Answer 8

Hi hunni - I can sympathise with ya on that on I was only 18 when I had my first child and I felt then exactl how you do now.

It hurt but not as much as I was expecting.

Everyone says it hurts like hell and there is nothing that comes close - in a way that is tru but what you have to remember is that everyone has different pain thresholds.

There are ways natural and drug related to help you through any pain and I advise tryin them if they help.

The most important thing to remember is that the end of the pain you are going to have a baby and once you look at him/her for the first time the memories of the pain will vanish. Theres not a feeling like it in the whole world.

Good Luck hunni x

Answer 9

Aw you poor thing. It is a bit scary with your first baby- i hope you have a nice man or some family to be with you. I am not going to lie and say it doesn't hurt and sometimes its a lot. But everyone has a different pain threshold. Also the hospital will have all kinds of fantastic pain relief to offer you so don't be afraid to ask for it. You will be ok. And once that wonderful bundle of joy is in your arms you soon forget the pain- honest- you forget it so much so you go back and have a couple more!! Good Luck! And don't forget to let us all know what you have!!!

Answer 10

I read a study a while back about how women feel more pain than men. If you have the same cut as your husband, it's going to hurt you more. But, the same study also said that women cope with pain better than men. I was pondering this the other day and I came to the conclusion that we're probably that way because we give birth. We need to be sensitive so we're in tune with our bodies, but we're tough so we can deal with the labor. It's scary, but you will be able to deal with it.

I've never had a baby so I can't give you any person accounts, but I'm no stranger to incredible pain. I was having gall bladder issues for a while. I'm TERRIFIED of pain and I'm even more terrified of medical procedures. Surgery and child birth are two of the things that scare me the most. However, I reached a point of pain where it would have been worth it to have the surgery. Of course, during surgery they anesthetize you, so for my mileage, I would certainly get the epidural, though honestly that scares me too. But like I was saying, you reach a point where the pain is enough that you're willing to go through anything just to know that it will be over. I suspect that child birth would be like that for me. I'd be so scared I'd likely pee myself, but eventually I'd be okay with it because it's only going to last so long, then it would be over.

Also, I used to have cramps. And I don't just mean pop a tylenol and feel better kind of cramps. I mean like my guts are being ripped out of my body kind of cramps. Nothing would touch these things. Not even oxycontin. NOTHING. It would leave me literally screaming in agony for about 48 hours wishing to God that I would just pass out so I didn't have to feel it anymore. A friend of mine who's had three kids compared that to going through child birth. Every time my period comes around I'm terrified that it's going to hurt like that again. But I'll tell you what, if I knew that at the end of it I'd be able to cuddle a wonderful fuzzy little baby that was a part of me I'd readily go through it again.

Answer 11

Everyone has a high tollerance for pain. Depending on the person and their pain that they can handle, for me I don't like pain so I buckled down and gave birth in 6 minutes after several hours of an Epidural. My epidural wore out and I happened to be ready to give birth, and 6 minutes later he was born. It hurt, thats why I pushed so hard for him to come out and all I can tell you is that work on finding the muscles you use when you do sit-ups. Thats how I knew where to push from and get things going for birth. Hope that helps. Good Luck!