How long did you wait before deciding to have kids after marriage and why?

Answer 1

We had our first about three years after we got married but it took 2 years. We had our second about 2 1/2 years after the first. Don't worry about the money we always seemed get the things we needed when we needed them. Have them while you are younger then you are still young when they are old enough to have fun with and play with. Then when they are off to college you are still young enough to have some fun. We didn't think we were financially ready for the second one but it never really seemed to matter once he was here. You just always find a way and it usually works out for the best.

Answer 2

After 16 years of marriage (2nd time) and 3 kids(oldest 24), I have learned only two things about marriage and life:

1. There is never enough *************
2. There is always enough ************

Fill that in with almost any noun and you can solve make almost any life decision.


Edit #1--Just remember...even if you became pregnant right this second, it will be 25 years before the little buggers leave your house. So just remember to add 25 to your age and decide if you can handle that, it is different for everyone.

Answer 3

well he already has a daughter and after much soul searching and lots of changed minds we have decided to wait until the baby is 4-5 ( she will be turning 2 soon) Since we dont have her full time it gives us a chance to be a newlywed couple as well as parents. Its hard on those days dont get me wrong i love my daughter she is my world right now but there are times when it can be hard because we just got married and we cant just pick up and leave and then of course there is the mother that we have to deal with but thats another story. My suggestion is borrow someones baby (and i do mean BABY not older kid) for a night like your sisters or something like that. this will give you a chance to see if you are ready to play parents and it will give the other parents a chance to have one night or day to themselves. All in all if you have any doubt in your mind just wait!!!

Answer 4

We did not wait long it kind of just happened. We were married about 3 months before getting pregnent with our first child. After our first it was 4 years until our second.

Answer 5

We waited a year. WE had already been living together so we were already used to being in the same house, but we were not financially stable. Once we saved some money, then we decided it was time.

Answer 6

We've been married 4 years, and we have decided to not have children. Actually, I told him I didn't want kids before we got married, so there was never really a decision to make except if he wanted to marry me knowing there would be no kids.

We are very happy:)

Answer 7

My parents tried immediately, but did not have kids for two years because of fertility problems.

My fiance and I are hoping to wait 3-5 years after we wed. This is so we have time to raise money, do some kids-free traveling, and so I can go to and complete grad school if I so choose. We are young, so our clocks aren't ticking yet. However, if kids decide to surprise us earlier, we won't be upset of course.

Answer 8

don't have kids unless u both are ready for them. kids aren't like that cool new cd or that coat that u have to buy. u can't send a child back & get a refund. fullfil ur dreams & ur goals & make sure ur financially stable before u have a child. take some parenting classes. there are so many people that have kids that they never wanted. its sad. don't listen to people that say any different children are a lifetime responsibility that wil test ur patience to the max.

Answer 9

I didn't wait and I wished I did. I think if you can, wait at least 2 years. That gives you time to adjust to your spouse and enjoy your spouse alone. Children will change your marriage either for the better or worst.

Answer 10

I got pregnant 2 months after getting married.
I would have waited longer, but I thought I was not able to conceive.
I guess I was wrong ;)