would it be wrong to want a baby at my age? im 15...?

Question

im 15 and i know very strange but i feel like i would be ready. i know that the stereotypical teenager is wild and irresponsible but im different, i am more mature than my friends and have never even tasted a drop of alcohol nor done a puff of a drug. i know i shouldnt but i do have options. i have homeschooling and i know that its not easy but its doable. i have a trustworthy boyfriend that has stuck by me like glue. i know that i shouldnt and that some people have the opinion that it would ruin the babys life but i have a different opinion on that matter. i think that if you are mature enough have your life set out and have someone to support you its very doable. the lady ive been talking to has 3 sets of twins and got pregnant when she was16 and she seems like the happiest clam on earth. i might even BE pegnant at this point because i have most of the early signs but 2 negative tests wieghing me down. i have a feelng i tested to early but you nevr know. i just have that feeling i am

i just remember being 12 and babysitting a 6 month old baby and i fell in love with him. i did everything for him fed him changed his diapers played with him. yes it was somewhat gross but i didnt mind it one bit, i loved every second of it and i guess thats where it all started

Answer 1

Don't listen to anyone on here that tells you that you aren't ready just because you are 15.

All people are different.

My grandmother had my mother at the age of 16.

My mother is the greatest woman I know and my grandmother isn't deranged.

It doesn't matter on the age.

It matters what is going on in that head of yours.

I am 19 and couldn't be more ready for a kid with my boyfriend however, I have a lot of things I need to do before that happens. If you feel that you are ready, then that is the only thing that matters.

People on here can tell you "no you're not ready because you are only 15...blah blah"

But only you know but you.

Good luck!

Answer 2

What about your life? Don't you have dreams and aspiriations you want to acheive before settling down to have a family? I am 32 years old and pregnant with my first and let me tell you you have NO IDEA how overwhelming just being pregnant is let alone being a parent. You have your whole life in front of you. You sound very responsible for your age but then again so was I at 15 and I didn't hit a "wild" streak until I was 20..even then it wasn't so wild but I was selfish enough to know a baby was a bad idea...my advice don't do it...it might be cute and all fun at first but it's a lifetime commitment best left to someone older and more mature.

Let me just add babysitting is NOTHING like full-time 24 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year all the rest of your life parenting...you can't even compare the two it is apples and oranges.

Answer 3

OK of course I am gonna say no... but just to make you realize why this is such a crazy idea for you. How are you gonna support this child and please dont say my parents will help me. Do you realize how much diapers cost? Formula? Wipes? I graduated when I was 16, I was in the military for a year and a half from the time I was 17 got pregnant three months before I got out turned 19 and then 3 months later had a baby. My daughter is 7 months and I am 11 weeks pregnant again. I am married, finished high school and even have some college under my belt and as much as I love my child and my unborn child and wouldnt trade them for anything yet I still wish I had waited and finished my nursing degree. And since I am an Army wife it will be twice as hard to finish my degree. Please come to your senses and wait til you get older and are married. And if you are pregnant already than you better get your head on straight real quick!!

Answer 4

I don't think it's wrong to want a baby at any age, I do think though that IF you are given the choice, you should know that there's nothing wrong with waiting until you are in a secure and stable position. Yes, of course you can figure it out as you go if need be, but don't you want to know that you can help put your baby through college someday? Babysitting can be helpful in understanding what it is to be a parent, but you can never know what is truly entailed in parenthood until you actually become a parent! You should try to wait until you are raised yourself before you think about rasing someone else. I am not trying to say you can't or that you're immature or anything, I'm just saying that I was 26 when I had my son, I knew from the time that I was your age that I wanted a child, I've always loved kids, but even with that and my much more lived life, I was still in for the surprise of my life when I actually brought him home. They're great, but you have so much life to live before you need to worry about someone else who is completely dependant on you! And even though you and your boyfriend are doing great now, parenthood can put a huge strain on any relationship so you can't really count on him always being there. If you are pregnant I wish all of you the best of luck, but if you're not, I really think you should give yourself a little more time to really be absolutely certain that this is what you want and use birth control. best of luck.

Answer 5

Do you have a job? A car? Do you live on your own and pay all your bills? Have you finished high school at least? When you can say yes to all of these answers then maybe just maybe you are a little more suitable to handle another persons life. Yes some of the things you mentioned are needed when raising a child but thats not everything. You may be smart but choosing to have a baby right now is so dumb. Dont make life hard on yourself enjoy the time you have as a child it will go by soo fast and before you know it you will be happily married with kids of your own and you will be happy you waited!

Answer 6

First off, babysitting for a few hours is COMPLETELY different than being a parent. You really can't even compare the two.

You say you have someone to support you? Unless your boyfriend is a lot older (which is a whole different issue) I doubt that either of you at your age could find a job that would be enough to support both of you AND a baby. Your 15, you have no idea how expensive it is to care for a child. You haven't even supported yourself yet.

And a boyfriend "sticking by you like glue" now can change very suddenly when a baby comes into the picture. Guys a lot older than you can't handle that. No way are you ready.

Answer 7

Its never wrong to have the feeling you want a baby but you still have so much time ahead of you. My sister had a child young (17) and she had a steady boyfriend and by the time her son was 2 her and her boyfriend were longer together and she was living at my moms house. Also a child is alot more responsibility than just babysitting for a night. I am 23 and just had my first child and I LOVE children but man are they hard work. I have a loving boyrfriend (of 4years) and a very supportive family but it is still hard work. You just have to think about how you will support the child when your done with school and you have to consider the cost of everything, diapers, formula, daycare, etc. You should really just think of everything that comes along with a baby before you start trying. If you are already prego than you need to start saving money now and preparing yourself for a lifetime of mommyhood.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

Baby sitting a 6 month old is a lot different than raising a new born. Think about the following things:
-Do you have insurance? Your parents won't cover and the baby and you shouldn't depend on government insurance
- Do you have a steady income
-Does your boyfriend want to be a father for the next 20 years?
- Do you know what it takes to raise a baby from birth? To go days with out sleep, to nurse your baby as he or she wants it, to give up going out with your friends, missing all the things kids your age will be doing?
-Do you know what to do with a new born baby that won't stop crying for anything...

These are just a few things. This is not to say that you won't ever be a good mother, but if you have the choice, live your life and when you are a few years older and more stable and steady, revisit this issue. Until then, get a job at a teacher's aid at a preschool. Also, you should talk to your parents and let them know what you think. I think they will have their own input. Remember, when you have a baby at such a young age, you are not only changing your life but also everyone else, mostly your parents, who haven't finished raising you and will have to help you raise your child,too.

Answer 9

You think you are ready but do you have a job will you finish school. You have support right now. Everyone seems happy is not alway. I think you need to think about the baby can you support a child can you cloth the child. I had my first child @ 17 with support from my parents and it was still hard. I cried evey night when she got sick or when I wanted so much for her and could not get it.. You have to think about the child not you. when you bring a child into the world it not about you any more finish school get a good job then find a husband and have a child many men these days don't want a ready made family and the one that do they treat you like S_---t some of them.

Answer 10

Having a baby right now is not what u want. How much money do you make? Do your parents support you? How would they feel? How long have you been with your boyfriend? How does he feel about a baby? I remember whenI was between the age of 11-15 and I loved to babysit and I even played with babydolls untill I was 13, but think about this. Having a child is very serious. I'm 17 and i'm pregnant. It was an accident but I don't believe in abortions. I didn't REALLY think about it untill it was too late. I planned on going to collage next spring and now I'll have to wait until I'll be able to handle it. My boyfriend and I had plans of going to south Beach and Gettysburg and all kinds of places. Well now thats going to be a problem if it's not already an "I wish". I stopped going to school when I was 16 and got my GED. I decided to pay bills and work instead of living a normal teenage life. I'm very reponsible and sensible and that's why my mother allowed me to do that. But I can barely pay my bills every month. I definately live paycheck to paycheck... which sucks. I convinced my mom to give my child support checks from my father to me for groceries. I can't even feed myself!!! and i live with my boyfriend. He makes $19/ hour and we're both struggling with money. It's not only your mental stability that you count on to have a baby. I'm telling you... WAIT!!!! Don't do this to yourelf now. Children are definately a blessing but we should wait for them.

Answer 11

No one, no matter what age is ever "prepared" for a baby. You are too young. No matter what you think now, it will be hard and you will regret it. Live your younger years out to their fullest. Don't get tied down. Go to school. How would you afford the baby? You can't even get a job most places at 15, atleast, not a good, steady one. Anyone can walk out and leave, even a trustworthy boyfriend. You have to feel like you alone can support a baby before you think about having one, just incase anything happens. Don't be stupid., your a kid, and kids shouldn't have kids.