she lost her mother on christmas and doesnt want anything
2007-11-27 06:35:39 · 31 answers · asked by brad r 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
In that case, it would be great to get her a holiday, to get away from memories and think about something else.
2007-11-27 06:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi W 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just being there when she needs you. take care of her ,hug her. above all be a friend that will listen on what ever she says. my boyfriend had lost his mother on his birth day and now he doesn't want any thing but to be left alone. but i try and comfort hem. when i lost the baby he gave me money for mothers day and i bought something to remember the baby. i bought a rocker. so every time i sit in it it always reminds me that the child is with me. just play it by ear. she might not want any thing but you could pay for a bill that will not be a burden on her at Christmas time.
2007-11-27 06:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always appreciate new clothing, whether it is a pair of luxury socks or a warm cuddly robe or sportswear.
You know, our local Hospice volunteers are making Teddy bears out of patient members clothing or bedspread or quilt. It is a wonderful project because the bear may or may not have the smell of the family member infused in it. It makes a wonderful keepsake when the family member is gone because every time it is seen it gives off good thoughts of mom. Perhaps you could find someone to make one for your female.
2007-11-27 06:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something from the heart. It's tough to lose someone on a holiday. I understand her not wanting to celebrate. Take her out to dinner or bring over a board game. Just do things to help her be distracted from the holiday. No Christmas paper or bows. Oh, and don't wear that Santa hat!! Seriously, though, I am sure she just wants to remember her mother. She doesn't want to be sad about it. Remember to think about her when you decide what to get for her, something that will make her feel special and know that you care.
2007-11-27 06:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Emmah 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would give her the sweetest card that you find. Then take her for a drive to see the Holiday lights, play Christmas music, go home bake and decorate cookies together and then cuddle up with cup of hot coco and a Christmas movie.
Remind her that her mom would want her to be happy at Christmas.
2007-11-27 06:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well thats tough, i'm a daughter and a mother i lost my mother in 1991 when i was pregnant with my now 15 year old son in November..xmas was always a big deal to her..i would suggest you find out if her mother loved xmas and perhaps you could persuade her that her mother would of approved of the gift...perfume something to remind her of her mom....she would find sollice in that....something to do with smell it's a real subtle reminder that she may remember...time will heal and support and understanding...
2007-11-27 06:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give her two things. A beautiful picture of her and her mother to remind her of the love (it will make her sad) but it will be a present she will cherish forever and then something FUN to get her mind off all the sadness, like a playstation if she likes video games, or snow shoes if shes an outdoors girl etc... you get the idea. Plus most importantly BE THERE FOR HER!
2007-11-27 06:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by cattier23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NOW! Before I go into my answer I want to calrify on not chewing you out , just read the whole thing and youll get my meaning :P
Females arent "Females" they have names, and likewise they are each thier own individual person. There is few presents that would please any women, the best course of action is to find out what she likes.
Does she like sports? Get her memorbelia!(sp?)
Does she like videogames? Get her a new system!
Does she like TV? Get her some seasons of whatever she watches on DVD.
Does she like other women? Get her a strapon!
No, that last one might not fit but I think you get what im trying to portray.
2007-11-27 06:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Darkon3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brad,
Something you could do is get her a nice framed photo of her mother. She will suffer forever, but has to move on and maybe a nice gift like that would help her realize that
2007-11-27 06:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Francesca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a myspace? Just from her profile you find out favorite movies, music, hobbies, etc.
Get her something shes interested in, or to help her feel better bring her somewhere nice,
or if on a low budget, rent her favorite movie to watch with her.
Just being there for her is a gift in itself.
2007-11-27 20:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by blueangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the type of relationship you have with her, such as G.F. or wife. Then you buy her a nice diamond ring or necklace. If she's just a friend, then you buy her an article of clothing or a c.d. of her favorite music or a favorite movie. ME? I'd buy her (my G.F.) the Santa's helper outfit. "Someone was a good girl this year"
2007-11-27 06:51:00 · answer #11 · answered by oldschoolelf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋