My brother and his wife have been married just over a year, and the only slept in the same bed for a couple of months. Neither snores - but they do fight a lot. Is this a sign of divorce soon to come?
2007-11-27 06:21:50 · 24 answers · asked by monicanena 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They're not cheating, and I know from my sill that they aren't apart for comfort reasons.
2007-11-27 06:30:01 · update #1
Sounds like trouble, hopefully they don't have kids. It's only been a year, better sooner then later.
2007-11-27 07:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by krika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't sleep in the same bed as my man, but snoring IS the problem. Maybe one of them is just a restless sleeper and can't handle being in the same bed with another person. I know I sleep much more soundly! I would fear waking up my significant other if I needed to go to the bathroom or get a drink of water in the middle of the night, which I do pretty much every night.
Sometimes even though we don't sleep in the same bed, my husband will want me to be there with him, just talking, before he goes to sleep. And we have an active sex life, but I leave the minute it's over. *LOL* I feel like such a man sometimes! ;-)
Although our marriage isn't perfect, it's far from troubled.
2007-11-27 08:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily.
My hubby & I don't sleep together, as neither of us can stand to lie flat (he has a bad shoulder, I have a bad back), so we have matching recliners we sleep in very comfortably. Some people just prefer to sleep apart, I know several couples that do, and their marriages are fine.
Now the fighting is another matter...and then again, some people do that a lot, too.
I guess they'll figure it out. Or not. Only way you can be sure if there's trouble is to hide & watch what happens.
2007-11-27 06:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much we fight or how angry we are at each other, we always manage to still sleep in the same bed. Our arguments usually don't last very long since we try to resolve our issues before getting into bed. We wouldn't want to have a bad night and get up the next morning with a bad attitude.
I don't know of any happy loving married couples who don't share a bed. Sounds to me like it's not your average married couple, maybe they have issues that aren't known to others and they have a hard time dealing with them?
2007-11-27 06:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. In fact, the trend in new homes being built right now is for TWO master bedrooms. Sometimes a little extra space is a healthy thing. Reasons can be snoring, light sleepers, different wake-up times, sounds, movements, etc. I think having the option of a little space is healthy and refreshing for both parties. Intimacy and sex can still happen, in either bed, and they can still chose to sleep together when they want. I be they both wake up having slept better...
2007-11-27 06:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are like this but she snores and I twitch. I also like to stay up late where as she goe's to bed early. I think only after a year though something is fishy if they fight alot and only married for a year they need conselling. The first is usually the toughest but usually sleeping in seperate bedrooms is usually a convience reason if the spouse snores or something else that keeps them awake.
A wise man says never go to bed angry meaning if yuor in a fighe end it and resolve it before you go to bed.
Tell your brother that you suggest he go to counselling with his wife that your worried about there marriage and that you like his wife and want the best for both of them.
2007-11-27 06:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they chose to sleep apart because one was keeping the other up, either with tossing and turning, or just lack of space, or it could be that one of them doesn't like sleeping with someone else in the bed. It works for some couples, even though most would find it strange. My hubby and I have trouble sleeping apart, like when he is on midnight shift, but we are both cuddlers, and sleep on half of our king size bed. But when one of us keeps getting woke up from tossing and turning, often we will go to the couch, just to get some restful sleep, instead of getting woke up every few minutes. Its probably nothing to worry about. if it works for them then its fine
2007-11-27 06:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for trouble in everything you see or hear. It probably means that they both want a better sleep. The fighting is normal for couples until they feel comfortable with each other. Give it time.
Spartawo...
2007-11-27 06:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by spartaworld.combat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. My wife and I have been married 7 years and have never slept in different beds unless one of us is out of town.
2007-11-27 06:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not a good sign in the traditional sense but different things work for different people. Maybe it means they aren't getting along, but it could be that one tosses and turns. Either way it's all speculation on your part or my part. Their marriage is between them.
2007-11-27 06:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not really. My husband and I do not fight much at all and we sleep seperate. Although he snores like a lumber jack and i am a kicker. We just make time for other things.
2007-11-27 06:28:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋