Is masterbating to online porn considered cheating?

Question

This is without your spouse knowing. What if it gets out of control and your sex life suffers because you are masterbating to online porn everyday? What if your spouse confronts you and you lie about doing it?

Answer 1

Yes, its definitely cheating... Its using a source other than your spouse to acheive physical arousal and happiness. It's always clear when someone is lying about looking at porn. Especially if the other person has a reason to suspect it...
When you marry, you are expected to be faithful. To use another woman (whether real or online) to get yourself off, is being unfaithful. I hope that you, or whoever is doing this, makes the right decision.. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I would say that masturbating to online porn (even without your spouse knowing) is not considered cheating. This is because what i would call the definition of cheating is a sexually physical act between two people (with kissing or other erotic touching at one end of the spectrum and sex at the other). Although the hypothetical questions posed after the initial questions are a concern when regarding looking at pornography, they do not relate to original question. If you get out of control with looking at pornography, that is a problem and an addiction but doesn't really have anything to do with cheating on your spouse. I say this because people look at people in a sexual way in the all the time, they may even fantasize about them later while masturbating, and this is not considered cheating by spouses (you may not like it but you would not call it cheating). Pornography is just a much more intense and obvious form of this. Also lying about looking at porn does not violate the ideal that in a marriage you're not supposed to cheat, it violates the ideal that you're not supposed to lie to you spouse.

Answer 4

I would consider that cheating, obviously. In both parts. When a person tells you they love you they should not find anyone else in the world appealing but you. I wouldn't put up with that if I were you, but I know that practically every man in the world behaves that way. No matter how the world spins it, looking at other women in any way is CHEATING. What he does is disgusting, and I know I will probably get a lot of thumbs down for this because there are a lot of pathetic men and overly accepting women in the world, but he is CHEATING! It's not your fault. No matter what you decide to do, just know that he is pathetic. Good luck and God bless you. -Alyssa Tyler

Answer 5

I dont think it is, but when you start to lie about something, that automatically makes it seem like you're up to no good! Try talking to your spouse about it, maybe they like porn just as much as you do, and are just embarrassed or ashamed, for whatever reason.

My husband whacks off to porn everyday, and I don't have a problem with it, because we still have plenty of sex. Plus, I watch porn too!

But if you really feel like it's out of control, try some counseling. Or try to limit yourself to do it less often. Like once a week or so.

Trust me, there are MUCH WORSE things that you could be lying to your spouse about! lol

Answer 6

You see, the funny thing is, men don't CENTER their masturbation around their spouses. Playboy magazine did a poll, and about 90% of all married men still touch themselves (keep in mind, Playboy is full of stuff that a man would **** off to. ). Most married men still touch themselves to women they are not having sex with. According to some answers on here, it seems if I just fantasize about sex or kissing with another I am cheating on my date and I am bad. Let me tell you; Men fantasize NORMALLY and REGULARLY. Why do you think they're staring at you there? For the words on your shirt? Nope deary.

Men are attracted to lots of people, and their love and sex life does not center around just one person. What they DO will, but their fantasies and masturbation won't, most likely.

As long as it's NOT a sexual addiction, don't worry about it. I wouldn't do it frequently, though. And I'd rather masturbate to a fantasy than porn, unless I'm doing it mutually ;).

Answer 7

In my book yes. Porn is cheating and completely disrespectful. Amy man who cares about the women in their lives would not degrade women by looking at porn. Porn is nothing more than women being objectified and treated like sex slaves. This is the 21st century- we know that women should be treated better than that. Only Piggish selfish men would do that. Anyone who says that it is normal and that all men do it is completely wrong. Real Men have a REAL WIFE and don't look else where and know how to control themselves.. Little boys need instant gratification and do what it takes to get it. I know some people think that it is necessary, but it is not. No man has ever died from lack of sex.

Any man who does this is a pig.

Answer 8

If porn is cheating then 90% of all males have cheated on their wives. I think women are naive to think that their spouse has never looked at porn...of course they will not admit it, that would be embarrassing. Obviously you have a problem that is affecting your marriage. You should work it out before it ruins your relationship with your wife.

Answer 9

I'd say yes. only b/c my husband was doing it and was cheating me out of time we could have spent together. anything you lie about to your spouse/sig. other should be a concern.
it also escalated into chatting w/ women online - having cybersex and trying to set up meetings for sex. online porn is definitely a slippery slope into more dangerous behaviors and it also hurts the other person. I felt horrible knowing that my husband preferred a PICTURE of someone over me, a real live woman who isn't a prude.

Answer 10

I think it depends who you're with and what boundries you have in your relationship. Some people believe if you look at someone else with lust that's cheating. Some people that only full intercourse is cheating.

The fact you were "caught" and felt the need to lie makes me believe she is not OK with this. You are getting something online that you aren't getting with your partner. Otherwise you wouldn't be doing it. If it's the fantasy, or no intimacy, you are getting something out of it that you can't get with your partner.

Because it's everynight and creating a problem in your relationship, I would say you should probably talk to someone about it. I don't know if this is an issue of "cheating" since there is no contact with anyone. you can watch porn on tv, and that doesn't mean you're cheating with your tv.

Most likely your partner doesn't like this because they cannot fulfill all your needs, and they dont understand how you can get pleasure from the internet when they cannot give it to you. If you were able to talk to them, and explain what it is you like from that, and it's nothing they are doing wrong, they might be ok with it.

But the question is, are you ok with this? is this taking over your life? are you obsessed or addicted? Then you really need to talk to someone about this.