I cannot, shall not, and will not stand types!?

Question

Who must be like everyone else or rather be classified 'odd'? Why can we not be ourselves and be grateful to our Lord for who we are? Who cares what they say?!

But yet, it is hard not to care, it is hard when everyone around you scorns you and considers you a pathetic and stupid miscreant if you do not wear Abercrombie & Fitch.

My cusin treats me like dirt just because I do not see things her way, just because I am not so stuckup and just because I do not believe the world revolves around her. She makes me feel small, and she told me I had no boobs, I was short, and I was not blond. (which apparently is the cool thing to be)

I want to be my own person but it is hard when people like her push you down. I really don't care if I don't have boobs at this age, I don't need them. She brags about how many guys ask her out every day and how many she has turned down, then she asks me if I've ever been asked out. She's not beautiful or anyting either! I want to stand up to her, but how?!

I am 15 and she is 16, by the way.

Answer 1

Life gets a lot easier when you realize that you cannot please everyone, but that's OK, because you do not have to.

If someone is rude to you, it is because she has low self esteem.

You will care less about what they say, if you would only realize that they are saying bad things about you because they are jealous of you, and you intimidate them.

Next time she asks how many boys have asked you out, ask her, "who cares?" You are going for quality, not quantity. Tell her that you are sorry that she has such low self-esteem that she has to case after popularity, fashion, and other superficial things to make her happy. It must be tough, going through life as a person who is as insecure as her.

Answer 2

Your cousin is a very shallow person, she also likes to bait you and get you to react - try not to buy into her bulls**t anymore.