I've had 2 myself but I take care of myself. I saw my ex'swife the other day she's like 300 lbs!! She wasn't that big before. I even said to him at first,"wow you have a very pretty girlfriend" Any how just curious..
2007-11-27 05:31:22 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the "baby" is 3 years old
2007-11-27 05:36:59 · update #1
I agree with you, just because you have a child doesn't mean you have to give up yourself. It's hard not to go into the slob mode when you're getting two hours of sleep a night but when the child is now 3, that's just bad business. Everyone should take care of themselves body and mind. Funny enuf having kids has made me loose weight, I was a manatee before the kids I'm down to a size I never would of dreamed of but it takes hard work to give yourself the time to devote but it's worth it in the end.
2007-11-27 08:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because some are comfortable the way they are, and might not have time to keep themselves in shape since their kids are more important to them then trying to look good?
Some are luckier than others when it comes to losing baby weight. My metabolism is high, so I have no issues in getting back to my pre-pregnancy weight. With my first I drop back down to 108 lbs in no time. Currently 25 weeks pregnant with my second, and I am at 112 lbs right now. I am petite, only 5'1 and have always been small. I've always had issues with gaining weight, no matter how much I eat it usually don't go many places. Mainly my thighs that's about it. I haven't worked out in years, I really should though to keep my health up. Don't care too much about keeping myself thin since I am comfortable with my body. I fluctuates all the time between 10-15 lbs so no big deal
2007-11-27 13:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let myself go for about a year and a half after my son, but there was more to my situation that made me do that. We moved out of state when he was three months old and I was not doing so well with the move. Then I got pregnant again. So between being depressed and pregnant and a baby already I had no motivation. But now I do take care of myself and wonder why I didn't before.
2007-11-27 14:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are predisposed (genetically speaking) to being a bit heavier after giving birth. There's nothing wrong with having a little meat on the bone. However, 300lbs is a bit much. For my sister (who has always been extremely thin, prom queen, homecoming queen, beauty pageant contestant...extremely gorgeous girl) she has had two kids and now she is a size 18, she is still very pretty but a bit curvier. Her problem is, is that she as soon as she lost the weight from her first kid, she found herself pregnant again. Then her husband went to iraq and she was left alone with two kids to take care of and all of the other household stuff and the stress of him being gone, then when he got home they moved, that added more stress. Then she had to get a job to help pay bills...and everyone knows bills come before diets...especially when you have two little ones to take care of. My sister is always on the go and is always so busy and with her husbands new job he is barely home to help. Add that onto being in a new place and not knowing where to go for childcare and such! So it is all about stress and support. But I still think she's beautiful...hell she was homecoming queen!!
2007-11-28 12:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by funandfancyfree3232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if they let themselves go is the correct statement....I am just a dumb guy who doesn't know what it is like to be pregnant and give birth but after watching my wife go through it twice I can honestly say that it wipes out the female body...physically and emotionally....It takes sometime for their body to heal and get back to "NORMAL" my wife still has some of the baby phat that she gained when she was pregnant with our second child who is 10 months....Once they get the child into a routine and a schedule then the women can do whatever they need to do in order to get back their pregnant body back....just my opinion
2007-11-27 14:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had 3.. youngest 13 months..weigh 122 and 5'9" All women are different, have ever thought maybe your ex's wife is depressed or has thyroid disorder..I'm sure the weight is hard on her especially if she was thin before. If she has a 3 year old she very busy and not sitting around eating bon bons..
2007-11-27 15:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by krika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that they let themselves go. it the lack of support they get from the father of the baby or their husband. Some woman go through post Natal depression for one reason or another and the stress on their body cause prevent some of them from losing the weight after the baby.
2007-11-27 14:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Musicman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after you have a child you are going to be more concentrated on the child not what you look like. Most friend's that i have cut their hair short so they wouldn't have a lot to take care of. It just takes extra time for some people, and others quickly begin to work off the weight. people are different
2007-11-27 14:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a different "metabolism". But maybe she just doesn't have time to eat right, so she just ends up eating too much of the wrong thing, being on the go and all. It just depends. I don't think the majority of women "let themselves go", but once you reach a certain age in your life and depending on your age when you gave birth, the weight is much harder to get off. The older you are, the harder it is. Consider yourself Blessed, if you are one of lucky lean ones!!
2007-11-27 13:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by casper 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes time I think - als having young babies is extremely stressful and sometimes in the short term a bit of chocolate may be the only happiness they are getting until the kid starts sleeping at night
Give them 6-12 months to get things shipshape once more
2007-11-27 13:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by peter w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋